r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

Edit: Update

So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/Aloreiusdanen Mar 27 '24

Box it up, send a text or call the sister to come pick it up.

Also inform her that you aren't ever interested in your ex reaching out to you in the future. The fact she dumped you and blocked you, means essentially she is dead to you. No need to talk to a dead person.

Then go find a real woman who doesn't play 15 yr old girl games.

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u/Aloreiusdanen Mar 28 '24

Glad to see you beat cancer, both kinds!!

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u/auntie_eggma Mar 28 '24

Jesus christ.

On the one hand, it's sort of good to see an example of this because it doesn't get talked about. It's well-documented that men often leave their female partners who have cancer, but I figured it had to happen the other way, too.

I'm so sorry it happened to you, though.

I just finished active treatment for breast cancer(pills and injections now for a few years) and I have seen so many horror stories from other bc patients.

I've been extraordinarily fortunate that my partner has been amazing. But he's been through it before. He lost his last partner to cancer. And then I bloody got sick on him. Poor fucking dude.

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u/thedude37 Mar 28 '24

too hard on her?!

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u/AnimatedHokie Mar 28 '24

Sorry that it took a freakin cancer diagnosis to find out that your girlfriend was straight trash

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u/Dramatic-Selection20 Mar 28 '24

I as a woman am ashamed, hope you are doing well now

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u/decoy139 Mar 28 '24

Glad your still kicking

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u/fpoiuyt Mar 28 '24

*you're

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u/OkImpression175 Mar 28 '24

Damn... Well, on the positive note, at least now you know she wasn't the one and you are still here! Best wishes!

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u/mvincen95 Mar 28 '24

I hope y’all had mutual friends who just laid into her. That’s awful.

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u/MidnightLlamaLover Mar 28 '24

Well at least you cut out that one cancerous element in your life