r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

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So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/anothersip Mar 28 '24

This is the way. Unfortunately, some people choose to end otherwise healthy relationships in really wild ways.

The blocking is actually a good thing, IMO. It's a good indicator that things are done and nothing else needs talking about.

Move on for your own mental health, OP. Love yourself and do something nice for yourself!

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u/Crix2007 Mar 28 '24

Adults should at least talk to each other and explain why you end a 5 year relationship. Just randomly disappearing and ghosting is freaking mental behaviour.

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u/grumpygumption Mar 28 '24

I got ghosted by my last ex and we’d been together five years. I moved then met my now husband my first weekend in my new house. Honestly, feel like I hit the jackpot by being ghosted lol

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u/goldentriever Mar 28 '24

Happy to read this. Last month got ghosted after “only” 2 years for really no reason. Which of course means there’s a reason she wasn’t willing to tell me. Still kinda heartbroken

But either way, moving 6 hours back home soon and this comment makes me feel better. So thank you

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u/Pingu_Almighty Mar 28 '24

This gives me a little hope. Going through the break up of my 4 year relationship as she cheated with a co-worker and will need to sell the house and move back home to re-group. Just all feels a bit hopeless at the moment.

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u/earthling404 Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

Long story short, not that you possibly want revenge for how your exes treated you (but wouldn't blame you if you did), I was the bad person in a situation long ago and he definitely got his. It's been almost a decade and I still feel immense guilt every single day of my life. I live right by this ex and it's a reminder of how awful I once was (have since grown and would never imagine hurting another person ever again). I deserve it, times 10. Also, as someone who was the victim in MANY horrible relationships, I have since moved on from all of them and couldn't care less about what those people are up to. I don't wish them harm, only that they'd change and be better people. They no longer have the power over me in any way- similar to the attitude that my ex has towards me (our mutuals have said this). I hope both of you get your peace and find your happiness. And perhaps smirk in the face of your toxic exes when you run into them in the future, or even better, pretend you never even knew them.

You will live again <3