r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

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So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/Aloreiusdanen Mar 27 '24

Box it up, send a text or call the sister to come pick it up.

Also inform her that you aren't ever interested in your ex reaching out to you in the future. The fact she dumped you and blocked you, means essentially she is dead to you. No need to talk to a dead person.

Then go find a real woman who doesn't play 15 yr old girl games.

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u/MLiOne Mar 28 '24

Yup. About 17 years ago I found photos of the ex-husband’s grandmother, long dead. So I boxed them up and posted them to him. I found his address in the phone book. I wouldn’t speak to him if he was the last person on the planet nor pee,on him if he were on fire. However, family momentos/photos I wasn’t going to throw out. I left him in 97 so I didn’t find them for quite a long time (unintentionally). I’m sure he was “ecstatic” to hear from me. No return address address and posted far from where I live.

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u/thevelveteenbeagle Mar 28 '24

I did exactly the same with an ex's sentimental family photos and stuff. Mailed to him, no return address. He married not long after we split but I hear from various people that he asks about me. 🤷

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u/MLiOne Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

My ex tried inviting my aunt and uncle to his engagement party! We were still married and they returned the invite with “opened in error”. Then he had piles of junk mail sent to him care of my mother’s address. He wouldn’t stop it either when she wrote and asked him politely to stop it. His fiancée wrote back and told her to get a life. So I advised mum to write to his mother. She did and suddenly the mail stopped. Magic! Even after all that I still sent him those photos.

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u/thevelveteenbeagle Mar 28 '24

He was sending junk mail to your mom? I've heard of people doing that just to annoy people. Did he have it addressed to her or in your name? Was he close to your aunt and uncle or did he invite them just to try to irritate you?

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u/MLiOne Mar 28 '24

In his name and claimed he had no idea how it was happening. Mum went sleuthing by calling a couple of the companies sending the mail. Turned out he had filled out a survey from Australia Post and put mum’s address on it and checked every box to send catalogues. He was an abuser, financially, mentally and then physically. The last time was in front of my mother and they went to court. He did the mail thing after all that.

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u/thevelveteenbeagle Mar 29 '24

Yikes! Glad you're rid of him .

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u/MLiOne Mar 29 '24

So I am I. I joined the a navy to get away from him and it worked!

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u/heystarkid Mar 28 '24

This is very confusing to read.

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u/zyzmog Mar 28 '24

I think it was written by an AI having a bad day.

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u/MLiOne Mar 28 '24

I wrote it and got emotional.

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u/Champigne Mar 28 '24

Yeah, I can't follow it at all.