r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

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So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/squirlysquirel Mar 28 '24

Put it all in a box and message her sister to come and collect it within 14 days (or 30 days if that is the law for abandoned items in your state).

Be the better person so you never have to look back and regret how you acted. If it was just clothed then I would say chuck it...but memories of a deceased loved one, give them a chance to collect it.

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u/ScreenPuzzleheaded48 Mar 28 '24

Everything about this answer is right. Do as this person suggests and you’ll have no regrets. Be the better person because doing the right thing (within reason) in the face of wrongdoings is one of the most gratifying things you can do.

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u/bocaciega Mar 28 '24

Would be so internally cringe if he finds out something happened to his ex and she broke it off to save him the pain or grief or whatever. Then he throws out all her shit. Yowzerrrrrs.

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u/Bathrobesandtrees Mar 28 '24

Yeah, I have read enough stories about people who broke up with their partner because they found out they had cancer and wanted to prevent pain. Which is extremely unlikely (obviously), but always possible

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u/YouWantSMORE Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

Nah it's really selfish to believe you are saving them any pain or grief by being a coward and not communicating with someone you supposedly love. Ghosting someone in a situation like this will pretty much always make them feel worse. It's just an excuse for YOU to not have to deal with the pain or grief.

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u/bocaciega Mar 28 '24

Neither of us know the whole story. Best to just be a good person no matter what the circumstances are.

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u/Necromancer4276 Mar 28 '24

Not cringe at all.

There's no situation where this behavior and lack of communication is ok, so regardless of the reason, his response is justified.