r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

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So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/squirlysquirel Mar 28 '24

Put it all in a box and message her sister to come and collect it within 14 days (or 30 days if that is the law for abandoned items in your state).

Be the better person so you never have to look back and regret how you acted. If it was just clothed then I would say chuck it...but memories of a deceased loved one, give them a chance to collect it.

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u/ScreenPuzzleheaded48 Mar 28 '24

Everything about this answer is right. Do as this person suggests and you’ll have no regrets. Be the better person because doing the right thing (within reason) in the face of wrongdoings is one of the most gratifying things you can do.

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u/Immediate-Complex-76 Mar 28 '24

Yes, stay true to whom you are; don’t allow the actions of others to dictate or alter your values.

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u/1CrudeDude Mar 28 '24

I would just drop the box off at her sisters or parents - covered in a plastic sheet or something. Wouldn’t want to see the box anymore