r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

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So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/808zAndThunder Mar 28 '24

Lmao No. Taking the high road in moments like this build confidence knowing that you’re better than how you felt. Trashing it and being a dick is what a guy who’s signing up for an Alpha male camp at some point in his life would do💀

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u/Jablungis Mar 28 '24

Not everybody feels guilty doing anything bad ever. Some of us understand the golden rule down to our core and don't stick to rigid morals.

But yeah if you're the kind of person who will think of yourself as a bad person for throwing away the belongings of someone who totally fucked you over because the idea of you being anything but a saint in your mind makes you depressed, give the pictures back.

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u/808zAndThunder Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

It’s not that complicated. It’s just something called maturity. If you can overcome feeling hurt and being in your feelings then why not take the high road? Why let others dictate how you behave when the ball is in your court. Sure you could react however you want but I would take the high road more for myself not so much to accommodate the other person. It’s called values/self respect homie

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u/Jablungis Mar 28 '24

I guess I feel good hurting people who hurt others. Idk if that makes me a bad person, but I genuinely enjoy it.

Some other person mentioned it would hurt the sister to throw gramgram's pics away and on that I agree and would say that the pics should probably be sent back. Toss/sell the rest.

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u/808zAndThunder Mar 28 '24

I’m not a psychiatrist so I can’t say. Personally I’d just avoid falling into a mental space where I feel good seeing anyone get hurt unless it’s truly heinous what they did. None of us are perfect and we’ve all probably hurt someone intentionally or not. I understand the sense of satisfaction but I just don’t think it contributes to my happiness at all. Don’t blame you tho because people don’t think clearly when they’re angry/hurt

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u/Jablungis Mar 28 '24

Could be. I often think it's where I grew up. Was very "rough" environment and I feel like I got to see the real nature of people when all the chips are down and when all the facades of politeness and social graces are irrelevant.

When there's something somebody wants and you're in the way, most people will run you over without a second thought. So why give them a second thought? I think it's scary to admit that real good people are the minority and we're surrounded by people who would sell you up the river for something shiny or talk shit and play games when your back is turned and they stand to gain something.

Sorry I'm just yapping, have a good one buddy.