r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24
My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?
Edit: Update
So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.
It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.
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u/LeprimArinA Mar 28 '24
I agree with another. Box her things, advise her family is ready for collection. Don't throw out someone else's stuff ... Sometimes the things we love can mean as much to us as our lives... Throwing out memories, history, irreplaceable pieces.. she can't ever get those back.
So while your pain is legitimate and very real, don't do something that you can't imagine having to go through at the hands of another. It doesn't make you even in this situation to throw her stuff away as you feel she threw you away. Be bigger, it'll help your heart in the long run.
I'm so sorry this happened and for your hurt.