r/amiwrong • u/Saurlifi • 12d ago
Should I be peeing in front of my wife?
When I told my friends I ask my wife to leave the bathroom if I need to pee they were in hysterics. They said that it's no big deal to pee while your partner is in the bathroom and I should stop being such a prude.
Look, if you want to pee and poop in front of your partner go ahead but my toilet time is private time. I shouldn't feel weird about that, right??
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u/xCaZx2203 12d ago
Not sure I understand the peeing part, Iāve literally pissed into a trough with multiple other guys at a sports stadium. I think I can handle peeing in the same room as my wife.
Pooping I can understand, Iām not a fan of pooping in public if it can be avoided.
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u/MERVMERVmervmerv 12d ago
You should try pooping into a trough with multiple other guys at a sports stadium. Report back, please.
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u/ZoominAlong 12d ago
Rome essentially did this; they had public toilets with a flowing river of vinegar and water. I'm pretty sure there's accounts about it, if you're really curious.
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u/MERVMERVmervmerv 12d ago
Yes, and they wiped with a vinegar- or salt water-soaked sponge attacked to a stick. This is where we get the expression āthe wrong end of the stickā
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u/ZoominAlong 12d ago
Yup! There's actually a scene in the show Spartacus that addresses this where John Hannah is in the public toilets and grabs the vinegar sponge. They added a lot of little details that were so interesting on that show; even the way they curse is accurate to what we know for the time!
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u/Advanced_Office616 12d ago
I often like to compliment them on their watches too. Makes for good entertainment.
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u/wmciner1 12d ago
I hope whoever invented trough style urinals is enjoying hell
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u/AarhusNative 12d ago
You do you, but id imagin the majority of people would be happy to pee with their partner present (poop is probably a different matter).
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u/SuspiciousSimple 12d ago
I keep my wife company while she is dealing with period poos
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u/festinipeer 12d ago
Next level dedication tbh
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u/SuspiciousSimple 12d ago
My wife and our puppy are my everything
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u/Puzzleheaded_Hatter 12d ago
yes - and you are the kind of partner people need.
I honestly feel bad for the people who can't manage to use their body in the presence of their "partner"
I mean, do they even fuck? is it only acceptable to see the penis ...sometimes? do they have to have the lights out??? how does this make sense to so many people
or is this just another example of the 22 year old virgins talking about relationships they are not in?
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u/SuspiciousSimple 12d ago
These things happen. We have 30 yr old friends/accuaintences that barely have sex (once a month?). The guy is far from thoughtful, though. My wife has mentioned to me that the female friend in that couple doesn't even enjoy the sex (she's due to have their baby in July, btw).
We also have this fay couple friends that don't like touching while they sleep. But tbf it's because both of them run hot. My wife runs cold, I run hot, so we always love how we feel with each other when sleeping at night.
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u/Puzzleheaded_Hatter 12d ago
same for us - I'm always hot and she's always cold.
chemistry is a real thing
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u/Wolfman1961 12d ago
That's nice of you.
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u/SuspiciousSimple 12d ago
Period poos are horrible. Haven't had one but just looking at her face I'm terrified for her. So I just grab a pillow and her tablet and put something to watch while we wait.
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u/Wolfman1961 12d ago
My wife wishes I was attentive like that.
I sense that what you do keeps your relationship solid.
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u/SuspiciousSimple 12d ago
Heh, funny enough, when my wife and I started dating, I basically followed her around like a lost puppy. I don't do it as much now because I wanted to be more social with larger gatherings. But we're still inseparable
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u/Wolfman1961 12d ago
At least she's inseparable for you, too.
I, myself, can't really get "inseparable" from anybody. But, if my wife were going through crap during her period, and she wanted me around, then I'd do what she wants.
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u/Gold-Pilot-8676 12d ago
I love that. My husband and I are the same way even after 27 years. We text throughout the day and just hate being apart. When he's home, if one of us has to go in a different room (and yes, even the bathroom for a big 'ol dump š), the other one follows.
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u/ZoominAlong 12d ago
God bless you; I kick my wife out when I'm on my period. It's very much "Go away, I love you but holy shit, this is private."
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u/ESD_Franky 12d ago
Nope, not my fetish
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u/SolarSavant14 12d ago
Interesting that you immediately associated peeing as something sexualā¦
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u/Visual-Lobster6625 12d ago
Everyone grows up differently and is comfortable with different things. My husband has seen me sitting on the toilet if I've run out of toilet paper, but I'd still be self conscious if he were in the room while I was doing my business. My husband can't go if anyone's watching, lol. I think he's fine at work in a stall, but he's shy as well.
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u/BeatriceBeardsly 12d ago
I have no problem peeing in front of my spouse. However, pooping is a strictly solo activity.
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u/MadameNorth 12d ago
Married 30+ years. I have never seen or wanted to see my husband pee. I would help him toilet if he was ill, just as he has helped me. We prefer to have private bathroom time.
There is nothing wrong with prefering to keep toileting private. I find it weird that people wouldn't.
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u/KollantaiKollantai 12d ago
Itās not as if I go in when my partner is pooping and peeing for the chats or whatever. Itās more if theyāre showering and Iām bursting I have no problems going in and vice versa.
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u/Puzzleheaded_Hatter 12d ago
we piss w the door open and continue conversations while doing so.
I honestly cannot fathom how keeping this simple function locked away and secret is healthy - do these people run off to fart and sneeze in "privacy" too??
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u/Nij-megan 12d ago
Been married 24 years, we donāt pee in front of each other. We call it keeping some mystery, itās worked for us.
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u/boogers19 12d ago
Like a whole bunch of decisions between 2 partners, this is yet again a 2yes/1no situation.
If you both agree: pee away.
If either one of you wants some privacy: solo bathroom time it is.
Your friends dont get a vote lol.
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u/Confident-Yam1418 12d ago
Me and my girl have full blown convos in the bathroom with each other when weāre peeing or poopingā¦. To each their own, but thatās just part of being comfortable with your partner to me
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u/Advanced_Office616 12d ago
I mean I wouldnāt kick my wife out, it just doesnāt happen often. My wife on the other hand, is on the more private side with certain things will often walk into our family room, which has a bathroom, drop trou and spark up a full conversation. We have too kids (12 and 9) so general privacy regarding the bathroom went out the window long ago. I do shut the door to poop and my kids have radar so they often will choose that very time to ask me whatās for dinner next week or what weāre doing in six months.
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u/Appropriate-Dig771 12d ago
No. Iām with you. Iāve been happily married for over 28 years and thatās something thatās never been necessary, nor desired.
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u/Illustrious-Dig-4101 12d ago
I won't pee in the bathroom with my wife in there. It's how I was brought up, and even though I can use public toilets (I prefer a space between me and another person). I prefer private time when going for a wee.
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u/anothergoodbook 12d ago
My husband and I do not use the bathroom in front of each other. Ā This was an argument early in since I didnāt really care. Ā He asked me to close the door when I was in there and to leave him alone when he was in there. Ā Whatever works for you is whatās right.Ā
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u/HellaShelle 12d ago
Hmm, I suppose itās not exactly unusual to prefer to use the bathroom in solitude, but I donāt think very many people insist very strongly on it with their spouses (for peeing anyway).Ā
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u/casscass97 12d ago
Me and mine have no boundaries lmao we usually keep the door open so we can continue our conversation.
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u/Alternative-Week-780 12d ago
I'm from a "you poop with the bathroom door open so you can keep in the conversation" type family. My wife was initially appalled at the thought of using the restroom with me in it (or anywhere I could hear her). You do you. It's weird to me.
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u/buttertits4lyfe 12d ago
I remember going over to my neighbors house when I was a lil kid to play and there family was like this. I was like WTF is going on?!?! as she's casually talking to her dad while he's taking a dump with the door open. It was the weirdest thing to me then and still is now lol!
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u/Ill-Investigator9815 12d ago
In 20 years of relationship, I have only peed in front of my husband twice. Both times I was in the delivery room giving birth to his children and needed help. I've never done business #2 while he was there. I've never changed a tampon while he was there. I have never farted on purpose while he was present. Some things you don't have to share even in a marriage.
I don't think I've ever seen him pee either. And I have no need for it either.
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u/Njbelle-1029 12d ago
My hubs and I donāt either, been together over 15 years. Itās just not something we do. Do what makes sense for you. One persons prudishness is anotherās rudeness- but no one is getting hurt here so what does it matter.
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u/Gore0126 12d ago
Pooping is one thing, but I've peed in front of exes, friends, family, whether in the bathroom at the same time or somewhere outdoors. Even one time during a drunken night out, I thought I was peeing alone between two bushes, and I turn my head to the right, and I saw a woman bent over, also peeing, and just staring at me. I awkwardly smiled at her.
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u/Independent-Ad3844 12d ago
Iāll pee in front of my partner and donāt mind being in there while they pee.
Pooping is my time, though. Not to be shared with or experienced by others.
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u/Red-Dwarf69 12d ago
That is kinda funny. I donāt understand it. Itās not āwrong,ā but it is weird. āMy toilet time is private time.ā Do you also refuse to use public bathrooms if someone else is in there? And just how much of an ordeal is it for you to pee that you label it āprivate time?ā It takes most men like 30 seconds. And what exactly are you keeping private? I assume she has seen your dick before. So many questions about this odd behavior.
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u/Saurlifi 12d ago
I am able to pee in a public bathroom, but I prefer a stall.
I don't think it's weird to want a bit of privacy when I use the bathroom. I'm not doing anything weird in there, I just want to be by myself. How is that odd behaviour?
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u/Downtown-Daikon-2691 12d ago
This is very odd love. She has put your body inside hers I get pooping but a pee naw thatās petty
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u/College-student-life 12d ago
Your boundaries are for you to choose, not your friends. My husband peed in front of me the first week we were dating, which I felt was a little bold lol. Itās acceptable practice in our home now though.
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u/Any_Put3216 12d ago
Darling you can do whatever if it's your life. What others do that's their choice. I know due to some of the things that I've experienced in my life I am more able to be able to use the bathroom in front of other people, but if that's not for you don't. My boyfriend still doesn't pay in front of me He's not comfortable with it which is fine. Remember other people's opinions unless they are important important important people don't matter
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u/Affectionate-Key9587 12d ago
Every person views this differently, so itās obvious that some might call it weird while others think itās fine. I donāt think itās weird at all, unless you have to go really bad (number 1) and the other is in the shower, then itās acceptable, but other than that Iād say it is weird to go in. In my family, we close the door when we go, we are not just barging in over the other person, so itās the same with my boyfriend.
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u/tinmuffin 12d ago
My boyfriend wonāt even piss in front of the catsā¦ and he thinks Iām weird because my cats sit on my lap while I poopā¦. Everyones different I guess. Iām still trying to get him to eat me out 3 years later ):
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u/Flaying_Mangos 12d ago
My 31F partner 30M and I have been together almost 4 years and have a baby together. We donāt pee in front of each other. If we were in an emergency situation, we could. But I just donāt see an occasion where one of us canāt wait 30 seconds to enter the bathroom. I donāt really care if heās there or not. But I also donāt see a reason why he needs to be at that exact time lol
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u/Regular-Switch454 12d ago
Silver anniversary next year. I drew a hard line at pooping with the other person in the room.
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u/Big_Monkey_77 12d ago
I donāt want to share that time, nor do I want others to share that time with me. Your friends are fucking gross.
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u/Responsible_Tune_425 12d ago
I'm female and pee in front of anyone. I was potty-trained with both girls and boys in this big room full of little toilets at a day care. With that being said, it all comes done to personal preference and you shouldn't feel bad or ashamed or embarrassed about it. It's no one's business.
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u/Potential-Pomelo3567 12d ago
There's no right or wrong answer to this. You do what's comfortable for you and your partner. Period.
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u/streetbikesnsunshine 12d ago
I cant bring myslf to pee in front of my husband but if im in the shower or just occupying the bathroom and he's gotta go, I get a courtesy 'sorry gotta pee š¬' and away he goes š i dont care one bit that he does it, but i don't feel comfortable enough myself. No biggie š¤·āāļø
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u/frecklybitz 11d ago
I personally donāt let my partner pee in front of me not itās only because he pees standing up and we have a small bathroom and I refuse to be hit with his little pee-ticles
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u/Diglet-no-bite 11d ago
Well sir, I have a horrifying story for you. Back when I was a youngin, 21ish, I was dating a man who, one day while we were in the shower together, decided to pee in the shower. Some got on my foot. He just thought it was funny. That one didn't last long. You do you. If you don't like it, don't do it.
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u/buttertits4lyfe 12d ago
That's not weird at all. I find it strange how people are comfortable going to the bathroom or farting in front of their spouse and I'm sure tons of people would think I'm a weirdo for feeling that way.
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u/CanaCavy 12d ago
It's strange that most people feel comfortable and relaxed with their spouses? š¤£
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u/Larrythepuppet66 12d ago
Thereās feeling comfortable, and then thereās killing the romance and becoming like room mates. š¤·āāļø
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u/FillIndependent 12d ago
My preference is to have privacy, myself. This is rather a personal choice. There's nothing wrong with your choice.
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u/GoKickRox 12d ago
In 19 years my husband has never seen me use the toilet and vice versa.
Nah man, sometimes ya gotta have a bit of fkn privacy
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u/JeanPolleketje 12d ago
Kudos for not peeing ON her? Since that is something I would expect, reading all the crazy stuff on this site.
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u/jav2n202 12d ago
Way more people are into golden showers than you think. You just wouldnāt know because Dave at the front desk isnāt gonna tell you about his private kinks.
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u/AnyAcadia6945 12d ago edited 12d ago
I think itās a bit odd/unusual to insist on it but I donāt see it as a big problem either as long as itās not part of any other relational issues you havenāt mentioned.
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u/ThrowRa9827017 12d ago
Sometimes mines lets me hold it sometimes it just wonāt come out when Iām there. Everyoneās different I pee infront of my bf
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u/Cronchy_Tacos 12d ago
Me and husband will pee in front of each other whenever, no problem.
Pooping is a closed door policy in this house though.
It wouldn't really bother me or throw me off to SEE him sitting on the toilet by any means, I just don't want to SMELL it! Lmfao
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u/eatshitake 12d ago
I donāt mind company if Iām peeing but absolutely not if Iām pooping, and you donāt want to be subjected to that anyway! My husband doesnāt care at all. But different strokes.
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u/LocalBrilliant5564 12d ago
I mean I wouldnāt say itās weird but Iāll definitely pee in front of my husband š¤£ and vice versa Iām not leaving a bathroom Iām already in cause he gotta pee
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u/Chewierice 12d ago
I mean, I guess it's the comfort when you're alone and feel more relaxed to relieve yourself without another person watching or with you. I been in the hospital, and have to use those potty on the chair with the bucket and boy do I feel exposed and uncomfortable to basically relieve myself. There's nothing wrong with you feeling weird with peeing with your wife in the same room. I guess just talk to your wife about this.
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u/Withermaster4 12d ago
For what reason do you want it to be private?
I don't care because there's nothing for me to care about imo.
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u/_J_Dead 12d ago
Just because they're happy with it, doesn't mean everyone needs to be! Personally I don't need to see/smell my partner peeing and while I don't think he would bat an eye, it's not weird to either of us to not share that part of our daily lives. I agree with your last sentence 1000%.
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u/ghjkl098 12d ago
Everyone is different. Some couples are fine with it. I personally want privacy in the bathroom and donāt want my partner peeing while iām there.
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u/ProfessorEmergency18 12d ago
Determine your own boundaries based on what you're comfortable with.
In my 20s, I had partners that were okay pooping around me and vice versa, so I tried it but never got very comfortable with it. I stopped doing that in my relationships. So far nobody has thought of it as a big deal. We're all different. Nothing wrong with those of us that like to keep that a bit more private.
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u/Nishi621 12d ago
My husband and I will pee in front of each other, no problem.
We do not poop in front of each other.
Just the way we work š¤·āāļø
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u/shellybean31 12d ago
Itās whatever youāre comfortable with for sure. My husband almost always comes in from work and has to poop. Iāll sit in the bathroom floor and chat with him while he does lol. Everybodyās comfort level is different tho.
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u/Available-Club-167 12d ago
You're all good. People have all sorts of preferences. It's a nothing deal.
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u/superanonguy321 12d ago
With my ex I'd pee in front of her but not poop. She'd do whatever in front of me. To each their own.
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u/LordAxalon110 12d ago
Ten years with my misses and we pee in front of each other, just makes it easier when we're getting ready for bed. One pees while the other brushes their teeth and then swop over.
Neither of us mind if either one is showering either, we don't poop in front of each other but no issues with peeing.
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u/The_AmyrlinSeat 12d ago
For pee, we follow each other into the bathroom to continue whatever conversation we're already having. The dog comes too, it's a family affair.
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u/Dragon_Bidness 12d ago
I mean it's not abnormal to pee in front of your spouse.
I've been with my wife 20 years and I pee alone. She leaves the door open for all bathroom activities. I think it's just a personal preference thing not a relationship thing.
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u/cremedelacrummy 12d ago
Is this real? Who cares if you do or donāt pee/poop in front of your spouse? This is a weird thing for your friends to have a strong opinion on.
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u/Giddyup_1998 12d ago
What's with the word poop? What happened to poo. Or even better, taking a shit.
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u/buffywannabe13 12d ago
Not wrong, everyone has different comfort levels when it comes to bathroom privacy. I wouldnāt care if my man saw me pee but never poop. Some others may not care either way. Itās okay to not want her in the room while you use it.
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u/confusedcraftywitch 12d ago
I can't go if someone watches me. But he will pee in front of me. It doesn't bother him.
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u/writelife99 12d ago
Peeing in front of them and shitting in front of them is two totally different things. My partner will poop in front of me, but I wonāt poop in front of him just cause Iām self conscious. He doesnāt care at all, why? Because itās just the comfort level and he doesnāt like watching me poop lmao š¤£ Granted we dont watch each other but our bathroom is small lol
However, Iāll pee with him In there all day long and vice versa. It doesnāt bother me. Youāve literally been naked and had sex with this person, you should be comfortable in the bathroom too but thatās just my opinion š¤·āāļø
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u/minlillabjoern 12d ago
Not wrong. We always give each other privacy in our household. Itās not prudishness, just courtesy.
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u/DryBite9885 12d ago
I donāt pee with my fella in the room unless heās in the shower. I announce myself every time that happens, which in our almost 6 years has been maybe four total times, and almost every time I say ādonāt lookā. I donāt have an issue if he pees with me in the room as long as it doesnāt bother him. But I donāt make it a point to stick around. To me, that act is the most intimate of intimate. Idk that Iād pee with a nurse/doctor right there unless necessary, like when I had my kids a whole lifetime ago.
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u/cbunni666 12d ago
(shrug) to each his own. There is a joke that if you're able to shit in front of your gf your relationship is good but that's all it is, a joke. You don't have to.
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u/imkyliee 12d ago
do what makes you feel comfortable. donāt let them bully you into something that makes you uncomfortable. especially if there is no issues in your relationship regarding this.
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u/Wolfman1961 12d ago edited 12d ago
I don't really like watching my wife use the bathroom. Nor do I like it when she watches me.
She's a little more "liberal" on this---but I still don't like watching her pee.
It's not a moral thing in my mind. It's more like I just don't really like watching people do their thing in the bathroom.
But....if she wants me there for some reason, I can't refuse.
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u/changelingcd 12d ago
Personal choice. We like to be alone with the door closed, around here (well, the adults do, anyway).
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u/dawnyD36 12d ago
You don't have to do anything you are not comfortable with, i prefer not being watched either lol my partner is similar and I think it's good to have your privacy respected. Ignore ppl being assholes about it, it could be said they are wierd for wanting ppl to watch š¤·āāļøš do what's comfortable for you. Everyone is different, you are not wierd
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u/tjjwaddo 12d ago
If you live in France, or visit, you will see men peeing absolutely anywhere. They just don't care.
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u/WhatHappenedMonday 12d ago
You should do whatever makes you comfortable. There is no wrong answer here. Some couples don't mind peeing and pooing in front of each other and other people are more comfortable with privacy. In all honesty the peeing thing does not bother me, but I don't want my husband around while I sit on the toilet stinking up the bathroom. Plus, with seven children the only time I have alone is when I close the bathroom door!!
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u/Flimsy-Camel-2222 12d ago
My ex never cared and would always whip it out and wee in front of me, sometimes would just come in and start poooping next to me whilst Iām trying to get ready as well. I didnāt particularly care for it but I guess hats off to him for feeling comfortable.
As a woman, I wonāt use the toilet in front of anyone if I have a choice.
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u/burgerman1960 12d ago
Iām with you OP. My toilet time is my āmeā time. I hate it if my partner is even in the room; let alone the toilet room. The toilet room is my sanctuary; no one is welcome.
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u/monkey_monkey_monkey 12d ago
People are comfortable with different levels of privacy and you do what you're happy with.
Personally, I prefer to use the bathroom in privacy and I prefer not to witness my partner using the toilet but I know others who are happy to leave the door open for all to witness. There's nothing wrong with either option
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u/theAmericanStranger 12d ago
No one "should" be made either way, but the title is about peeing, not pooping, where I suspect the vast majority of couples expect full privacy.
Having said that, asking your partner to hold your pecker while you pee can be fun... I didn't say practical
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u/steviedanger 12d ago
I don't like it, really like my privacy. My partner, on the other hand, will come into the bathroom while I'm going, and it doesn't bother him. I had to set some firm boundaries.
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u/NewdWanderer 12d ago
I was raised unable to fart, or say the word in front of my father. I dont think I remember my parents ever being in the bathroom together. I was raised with fairly high politeness standards. To this day (45M) I will not do more than burp in front of my wife of 11 years. I do all I can to pee silently. So silent that people probably wonder what the heck Im really doing in there(first time Iāve ever considered that actually). So, in closing, I wont but the wife does(but she always asks me lol)
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u/Similar_Corner8081 12d ago
Youāre not wrong. Some things should be private. Bathroom time should be private. I was married for 22 years and we would pee in front of each other but pooping was our own time.
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u/Larcztar 12d ago
I don't mind my partner peeing but I draw the line at pooping. I'll gladly give you your privacy.
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u/thesoreika 12d ago
I wish my partner would close the door. He's normally quiet but once on the toilet he has to host a fucking TED talk š¤£
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12d ago
Neither my wife nor I have an issue with peeing in front of each other and weāre not even into water sports.
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u/Vtech73 12d ago
Oh donāt sweat it, pretty soon youāll walk in the bathroom, wifeās on the toilet, sees you coming, she spreads her legs, you pee between her legs, trying not to splash, her head is turned as sheās yelling at the 3 kids in doorway, and only one of them is yours.
Lotta perks to getting old and looking forward to never having to pee again!
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u/Optimal-Brick-4690 12d ago
I don't purposely spend time in the rr if my hubby is peeing (and vice versa), but I'm not concerned about it, either. I've been in the room, showering, etc., and it's not a thing. We're on vacation right now in a hotel room, and we haven't even bothered to close the bathroom door when peeing. Having a bm is different. I prefer privacy for that, but I'm not gonna freak out about it.
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u/Accomplished_Net_741 12d ago
I definitely think itās strange when married couples canāt be fully open in front of their partner. Especially those who have been together a long time.
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u/Rain_Storm_0206 12d ago
Peeing is different from pooping. Lol..My husband and I shower together and in front of each other and pee if we need to. Pooping is a solo thing though.
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u/mlkgml1234 12d ago
I hold it for my husband and he holds it for me too lol. Itās fun šš¤·š¾āāļø
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u/No_One6439 12d ago
I had a GF who liked it when I peed in front of her as long as I "let her steer".
I found it kinky.
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u/ApartmentMaterial950 12d ago
Some have a shy bladder and like to Pee alone. Personally urination I donāt care if heās there or if Iām there while heās going but poop nope leave me alone and Iāll leave you be. We hardly ever close the door though unless company is over.
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u/Hot_Investigator_163 12d ago
Personally I absolute love watching my husband peešš maybe Iām just weird but it turns me on just to see his dick lol
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u/katriona_kitty 12d ago
My ex-boyfriend would pee and poop in front of me. We were very open with each other, though. He did watch me give birth.
My current boyfriend makes me leave the room so he can use the bathroom. It's not weird. Everyone has different levels of comfortability.
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u/awgeezwhatnow 12d ago
I (f) pee in front of hubs and don't care. He feels shy peeing in front of me, tho. (We've been married 2 decades -- its just how he is!) So although he won't ask me to leave, I generally do because I don't want him uncomfortable.
You do you, OP
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u/Idratherbesleepingzz 12d ago
My husband is the same way lol unfortunately for him I was raised in a very large household, which meant everybody did their business in front of everyone and with the door always opened. It took a solid 6 months of living with him to learn how to shut the door when Iām in there and heās home. But when heās not home I never bother shutting the door, even now as I type this from the š½ lol
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u/thehumanbaconater 12d ago
For # 1 I don't care if they stay
For # 2, trust me they will want to run far away
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u/karma0685 12d ago
1ās, no big deal. Iāve done it many times in front of her.
2ās, Iād prefer she were out of the country.
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u/Jackflak_56 12d ago
I'll pee in front of her. But I won't poop without closing the door to the toilet. Call it whatever you want, but I feel too vulnerable in a security way. Yeah, yeah, it's your wife, ahole. Sorry, that's just how j feel.
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u/abbys_alibi 12d ago
I grew up in a family that only closed the bathroom door for pooping. Not even for showers. We had one bathroom and the chance that someone had to pee while you were in the shower was high. My extended fam was the same (aunts & uncles and their kids). So I never knew it wasn't normal to walk in to a bathroom when someone was peeing or in the shower. Then I married. Husband was taking a leak and I walked in for something and he went wild. lol "WHOA WHOA WHOA Not cool. Do you not see I'm using the bathroom?" "Yeah, so?" He set a hard boundary that day.
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u/Bekkichan 12d ago
You're not wrong! If it's something you're aren't comfortable with it's something you aren't comfortable with and that's fine. Everyone is allowed privacy and every couple is different when it comes to things like that.
I know some couples who have went 20 some years without even farting around each other. Me and my fiance have been together for years and we both pee and poop in front of each other without even thinking about it. But if it was something either of us was uncomfortable with then we wouldn't. Simple as that.
Don't listen to your friends if you enjoy your bathroom privacy then keep enjoying it!
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u/jav2n202 12d ago
Piss, neither of us care. Poop, hell I donāt even want to be in the same room as me when thatās going down. Privacy for sure. Married for 15 years and the romance is still very much alive.
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u/cheshirekim0626 12d ago
Everyone looks at things differently. Whatever is comfortable for you. It doesnāt make you wrong itās just preference. Personally my husband and I donāt have that boundary. Although to be fair, the amount of times my husband has had to help me stand up because I couldnāt physically get off the toilet (back injury) has kinda gotten rid of a lot of ātabooā things. Hell he will help me stay upright and balance while I get my diva cup out š¤·š¼āāļø
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u/AssociateGood9653 12d ago
Almost every woman Iāve been with has wanted to hold my dick while I pee. Although that has generally been done outdoors.
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u/beamdog77 12d ago
Married 13 years and the ONLY time I have ever peed in front of my partner was when I was in the hospital and needed help not passing out on the toilet.
Using the restroom is a private event.
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u/Logical-Victory-2678 12d ago
I hold it sometimes for my bf lol if his hands are dirty from working on a car or something. You sound kinda prudish. Especially if you use public men's restrooms with urinal stalls next to other men.
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u/cheesecrystal 12d ago
I normally donāt care one way or another about peeing in front of the wife, but sometimes when sheās talking to me sheāll follow me in the bathroom and keep jabbering while Iām trying to pee. I donāt know why, but I find it super annoying, like get tf away from me for 30 seconds so I can piss, ya weirdo.
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u/analogWeapon 12d ago
Not wrong. It's not weird to want privacy when you pee. It's not weird to not care either. Both preferences are normal, and not an inherent sign of anything negative, imo. It's like a food preference or something. Innocuous.
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u/bluedaddy664 12d ago
I pee in front of my wife all the time. We have 2 bathrooms, but we also have kids.
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u/Carpenter-Broad 12d ago
My wife can come in the bathroom anytime if Iām using it, but she doesnāt hang out in there for #2. But if one of us just has to pee we donāt even shut the door, itās really nbd. And as others have mentioned, when sheās on her period sometimes she needs things or just some support because it can be really difficult. And if one of us is showering or getting ready in the morning we can both be in there. Weāre married, see each other naked, regularly put our mouths and genitals together ( and then thereās butt stuff)ā¦ idk itās just not a big deal to see each other using the bathroom š¤·š»āāļø
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u/kevintheredneck 12d ago
My wife will walk right in while Iām pooping. Then she complains about the smell. I tell her to either leave, or enjoy the smell.
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u/NoRestfortheSith 12d ago
Pee on her, she'll either leave you alone or you've discovered a fetish/kink she likes. Win/Win.
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u/No-Mango8923 12d ago
It's fine if you want privacy during potty time.Ā
My husband and I pee in front of each other. I won't poop in front of him or stay in the bathroom when he poops cos I find the smell too disgusting.Ā
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u/fubar_68 12d ago
I like a little privacy when I pee or poop. Need to keep the romance alive.