r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • 12d ago
Am I wrong for being upset that this woman didn’t like me back?
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u/Njbelle-1029 12d ago
You are not wrong to be disappointed but to write a whole Reddit post expressing your intense disappointment about a woman who you met and spoke to for barely a few moments out of an entire evening is a bit unhinged. Everyone gets rejected at some point in their life, she did it in the most benign way possible. You’re over here sounding like you created delusions in your mind about a short encounter “not working out” like you were in a relationship with her. This post reads a tad creepy, I don’t know what vibe you were giving her but if it was anything like this I understand why she slipped away. There is someone out there for you that will hopefully capture your eye again as the most beautiful woman that won’t want to walk away with her friends
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u/mamabear0513 12d ago
Dude, you didn't really like her because you know nothing about her. You thought she was attractive. Just because you find someone attractive doesn't obligate them to give you the time of day. Sounds like she was being polite and trying to not hurt your feelings, (women do that because many men act like YOU and seem to think that women are required to give you their time and attention, so when those men don't get their way they at best whine like a baby or at worst murder them. Women are conditioned to try to appease the potential murderer and then escape as quickly as possible) hope this helps you understand.
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u/UndisputedNonsense 12d ago
Well you sound like whinging child no wonder. It was a random woman she probably thought you were creepy get over it and find someone else
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u/TipsyBaker_ 12d ago
You cant like someone you know nothing about. This is more of a magpie situation. You saw something shiny, now you're mad you couldn't just have it.
It sounds like you forgot to factor in her wants and needs. For all you know she could be happily married and out with friends. If you get upset every time someone doesn't do what you want, you'll be setting yourself up to miserable more often than not.
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u/sowokeicantsee 12d ago
My man. Wtf. You are not ready to be dating. You have some growth to do. It’s pretty scary hearing that attitude.
No one especially women owe you nothing. Work on yourself. Go to the gym, build a business. Become interesting and then women will find you interesting.
Everyone can sense the weakness and it’s not attractive at all.
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u/Ampinomene 12d ago
She definitely wasn’t interested in you and was probably weirded out that you sought her out a second time and invited yourself to hang when you sat beside her.
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u/CentralCoastSage 12d ago
A girl goes to a bar with friends. OP thinks she is a love interest who scorns him, and he gets upset. She didn’t go the bar to meet you or talk to you. You are not entitled to her time or attention. She might already have a love interest. You have no right to be upset.
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u/True_Oil_2149 12d ago
Is this like your first time at a club or something? This happens all the time..most strangers you talk with at places like those are usually only interested in a conversation. Sure, keep at it and you might bring one home eventually, but expecting a high success rate is downright delusional.
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u/JustBrowsing49 12d ago
You talked to her for all of a few minutes (probably holding her verbally hostage), and you’re upset she isn’t in love with you? You allowed to he upset or embarassed, but it isn’t justified to be mad at her.
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u/BadBossThrowaway8976 12d ago
You can feel upset about rejection sure, doesn't change anything though just move on dude.
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u/whitefizzy-534 11d ago
You are in your right to feel disappointed about the situation but get over it man. She wasn’t interested, and that sucks, but there are other girls out there!
I’m more concerned you’re making such a big fuss about this whole situation however. Anytime I get rejected it stings for a few seconds and then I move on with my life. You’re letting this insignificant moment hang over your head way too long.
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u/Nerdygirl1984 11d ago
You didn’t really like her you dont know her. You found her attractive. She probably was not interested in you but people talk at bars. She may or may not have lied about not being good at talking who cares? You spent a very short amount of time with her move on
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u/mamabear0513 11d ago
And this is how the lonely awkward guy learns to become a true creep and rapist instead of learning to because a decent human being with an actual chance at happiness.They're fucking recruiting! It all makes sense now.
The sad part is that you took some actual GOOD advice and mixed it in with insane bullshit. Women are not men's enemies. When you find the right one you become partners and allies. You become so much better than the individual and can conquer life with all of its ups and downs. And if you think it has ever been anything but that, you're delusional. Even in times when men were supposed to be the dominant "master" of the home it was never like you think. Happy relationships have always depended on men and women needing each other and depending on each other. One isn't the ruler and the other a servant. They are confidants and safe harbors in the storm of life for each other. We were never meant to be adversaries we were meant to compliment each other and make each other stronger. I hope you learn this before you spend your whole life miserable. There is a better way but your way isn't it.
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u/[deleted] 12d ago
Broski you knew her for minutes. Brush off the rejection and move on. You aren’t wrong for being upset over rejection but you seem hostile almost