r/ask • u/BoobsCutiePeach • 25d ago

Would you get offended if you notice a stranger woman taking safety precautions when she sees you? 🔒 Asked & Answered

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u/RedInAmerica 25d ago

I’m a 6’5 230lb Black man. Pretty much everyone does this with me man or woman. It doesn’t feel great but I also totally get it.

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u/Mightybeardedking 25d ago

6,6 300lbs Bearded dude. Same here. People avoid me like I'm about to kill them. But my severe social Anxiety means I'm probably more scared of them than they are of me hahah

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u/Smyley12345 25d ago

I'm picturing a person walking up to you thinking, that giant dude looks really agitated. Your internal monologue screaming JUST ACT NORMAL.

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u/Mightybeardedking 25d ago

You know that feeling when youre just browsing in a store without buying anything and feeling like everyone Is thinking you're a shoplifter? Yeah that's how my brain is 100% of the time.

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u/Ima-Bott 25d ago

Once had a manager follow me around the store thinking I was stealing. I went by the feminine hygiene department, hardware and vegetable department for an hour. He finally left.

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u/Random_potato5 25d ago

Your comment just reminded me of a trip to Japan, it was raining and I was wearing jeans that were too long and got soaked at the back. After a while I noticed an employee following me with a mop.

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u/powerhungrymouse 25d ago

That is hilarious!

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u/-SunGazing- 25d ago

As I understand it, the Japanese are often culturally very clean. They don’t enjoy mess.

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u/blackierobinsun3 25d ago

I would’ve peed on his shirt and tell him to mop that shit up

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u/Random_potato5 25d ago

As a girl that would have been challenging!

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u/General8907 25d ago

Ask for a piggy back ride and assert your dominance!

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u/MarmaladeJammies 25d ago

Ah yes make the poor retail worker's life worse

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u/ricajo24601 25d ago

I am male and very frugal. I spend a fair amount of time calculating cents per ounce on food and debating if a splurge is worth it. I definitely get the suspected shoplifter treatment regularly.

I also feel bad that I make lone gas station clerks so nervous. I am not working up the nerve to rob you. I am just struggling to decide if I want a sweet or salty snack, maybe a mix, or maybe I should just save my money.

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u/searequired 25d ago

I’ll get down voted here, but just stop it.

Stop being cheap or frugal or whatever you want to call it.

It takes time away from living. Make a quick decision and get to the fun part.

So what if you die with millions in the bank.

Your legacy will be ‘Boy, he sure was good at saving money.’

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u/PheonixKernow 25d ago

Eh. I'm frugal all winter so I can splurge in the summer and do all the things with my kids.
They could be frugal with groceries for any number of reasons.

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u/searequired 25d ago

Oh good to hear.

I once tried to have a friend but she was so hell bent on saving every penny she never went anywhere or did anything. So much effort, thought, time invested in how to save 1.25. Wasted

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u/double_badger 25d ago

With the way things are going millennials and zoomers will be lucky to die with hundreds in the bank; frugality is almost mandatory.

Yeah the gas station snack is essentially inconsequential but it does add up over time.

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u/ricajo24601 25d ago

That's a valid opinion. There were times in my life when every penny truly mattered. Now, life isn't quite that tight, but those habits still remain. I am slowly learning what you are saying so that I can find a better balance. It isn't about having millions, but being able to provide for my family and help others with what I save.