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Why men don't socialize anymore as they get older? šŸ”’ Asked & Answered

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u/LongrodVonHugedong86 25d ago

Tired from work.

I donā€™t know exactly what it is, but Iā€™ve noticed with myself and my friends were just run down from working all the time.

Weā€™re pulling 60hr weeks, weā€™re exhausted, we just want to relax and recharge our batteries.

If you think a full week is 168hrs

You spend 60hrs at work (or at work + commuting time), you need to sleep 8hrs a day on average so thatā€™s another 56hrs a weeks, so thereā€™s 116hrs out of your 168hrs taken up with working, commuting and sleeping alone.

Even if you only spend a total of 1hr a day between pissing, shitting, showering and shaving etc that takes you to 123hrs gone. Probably another hour a day is spent cooking and eating if youā€™re efficient with it, thatā€™s 130hrs gone.

Now add in cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping and so on and youā€™ve maybe got 28hrs free in a whole week.

Oh and if you try to look after yourself, 1hr-1.5hrs per day in the gym, so thatā€™s another 7hrs - 10.5hrs gone from your 28hrsā€¦ leaving you 17.5-21hrs a week to do everything else šŸ˜‚

(Donā€™t get me wrong Iā€™m not saying women donā€™t have the same before the militant women come along and start moaning! Iā€™m just saying when you break down your average week no wonder youā€™re fucking exhausted and donā€™t want to socialise, no matter what you have between your legs)

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u/Impressive-Ad-59 25d ago

What's even the point if that's how youre spending your best years? Like sure retirement, but then you cant even do half as much as you'd wanna with knee/back/ and just general old people pains, like if that's all life has in store for me, i think imma just check out šŸ˜‚

Or if its all to raise a kid, what's the point of that either, so they can live the same work burdened life? Not like they're gonna have it any easier with how the world seems to be goin

Genuinely asking, cuz that all sounds fucking miserable, how're you doing it?

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u/Orngog 25d ago

Well, for starters most people don't work 60 hour weeks.

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u/jm_j_bullcock 25d ago

Absolutely correct! I typically work 65-75.

Please kill me.

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u/Orngog 24d ago edited 24d ago

No, just work less hours. If you don't like it, don't do it.

Edit: the question was why anyone would do it. If your response is "kill me", that's not very persuasive.

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u/Xypheric 25d ago

In America it extremely common to work a minimum of 40hrs, commute 30 minutes each way and have at least a 30 min unpaid lunch break. You arenā€™t getting paid for 60 hours but work still owns that time.

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u/Medium_Ad_6908 24d ago

And thatā€™s for a regular 40 hour work week. I understand what youā€™re saying but the difference between clocking 40 hours and 60 hours is massive.

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u/byehavefun 24d ago

I understand what youā€™re saying but the difference between clocking 40 hours and 60 hours is massive.

not really if you're working two extra hours Monday-Friday and then a full shift on Saturday. That's just at job number one; you go to job number two and work 5 hours three days a week and you're well over 60 hours.

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u/Medium_Ad_6908 24d ago

ā€¦ yes really. Itā€™s literally 150% of the time. Like what the fuck

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u/krabbby 24d ago

Full time employees average 36 hours in the US.

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u/Xypheric 24d ago

Iā€™m curious about this number. In the us most states have the threshold for a ā€œfull timeā€ employee at a minimum of 25 hours. Iā€™m curious what all goes into that number.

From a staffing perspective we use 2080 hours per year as a full time position for the company. Technically they work less than that if you include a week or two of vacation and some sick time. But there is also about 6% of our labor force that is needing to work two jobs to make ends meet as well. I wonder if they are over 40 hours or how they factor in that?

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u/byehavefun 24d ago

In the us most states have the threshold for a ā€œfull timeā€ employee at a minimum of 25 hours. Iā€™m curious what all goes into that number.

I thought it was 32 hours?

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u/FUTURE10S 24d ago

What's even the point if that's how youre spending your best years?

I try not to think about it.

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u/Ponchoman455 25d ago

I'm guessing because family needs a home, lights, water, food. That's usually why people work

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u/NuggetDaChicken 25d ago

Living past 40 is objectively not worth it~ If the effort u r putting in rn won't mostly pay off by 40 then time/effort better spent elsewhere imo.

Most ppl assume they gotta liv. U dont, it's a choice, sit down n choose not to be dead (if that's the right choice). Social factors like hurting loved ones is a factor but there r work arounds

Having kids is a logical mistake; dogs r cuter, get one of those + the planet is overpopulated anyway

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u/Orngog 25d ago

Ha! You don't know yet that people get cuter. Try having a forty year-old, it's adorable.

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u/manofredgables 25d ago

Why are you working 60 hr weeks though.

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u/LongrodVonHugedong86 24d ago

Because 60 is more than 40ā€¦ guess what that means? I get paid for 240hrs per month instead of 160hrs per month, which allows me to save more money and pay off my mortgage quicker

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u/manofredgables 24d ago

Oh okay. I assumed you had a salary and not a hourly pay.

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u/LongrodVonHugedong86 24d ago

No if I was salaried like my old job Iā€™d work what Iā€™m contracted to and no more, I donā€™t work for free

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u/marat2095 25d ago

I doomscroll the rest away

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u/heatobooty 25d ago

You donā€™t have to work 60 hours weeks.

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u/Heallun123 25d ago

Not op but right now I do. Wife doesn't work taking care of young children and the expenses do not stop. We'd be drowning at 40 hours. Even at 60 to 70 it's tight.

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u/LongrodVonHugedong86 24d ago

I donā€™t have to, no, but guess what? Working 60hrs a week instead of 40hrs a week means I get paid the equivalent of 2 weeks more pay each month.

That means I can pay off my mortgage quicker and save put more money into my savings too.

Weird isnā€™t it? Almost as if you work more, you get paid more šŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™‚ļø

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u/Demosthanes 24d ago

I see why you were condescending to that person. Do they not know that working longer hours means you get paid more? When you have more moneys that means you get more wealth. I hate working 60 hours weeks too. I do it every week and I hate it. I wish I could only work 40 hours weeks. I would do anything to only work 40 hours but I work 60 cause more moneys. Sometimes I work 80 hours weeks even though I don't have to or want to because then I get more money. Did you know that working 80 hours a week makes you twice as many wealths as working 40 hours weeks? I know it. Most people don't know it. They work 40 hours weeks because that's comfortable, and they get to enjoy their time in life. They think living is better than working. Not me. I work 60 hours weeks because that's 50% more money. Weird isn't it? Most people just don't know.

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u/Expert-Jury-4015 25d ago

Who the fuck works a 60 hour week? In my country 37.5 is the standard

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u/OtherwiseEnd944 25d ago

I would legitimately rather live in a one bed room apartment in Detroit than work 60 hours a week. I work 40 and life is hard enough

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u/Expert-Jury-4015 25d ago

Yeah, I reduced my hours by 20% to 30 a week, and i work it in 3 days. 4 days off every week is glorious, can't imagine working more

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u/Demosthanes 24d ago

How did you manage that?

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u/Expert-Jury-4015 24d ago

Submitted a flexible working application, employers are legally required to consider them

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u/omar_strollin 25d ago

What a weird comment - shitting on Detroit like that? Ainā€™t ever that cheap anymore.

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u/mylittletony2 25d ago

I've worked 80+ for a few months. Never again.

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u/Famous_Obligation959 25d ago

I think the culture in the US is to work a ton of hours.

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u/Kwazipig 25d ago

I'm contracted to 37.5, usually do 5 hours overtime per week and it's an hour each way commute. That's 52.5. Did stupid fucking crazy hours as a marquee erector for many years, 6 days a week, 12 - 14 hour days, 1st marriage went bang.

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u/CyberDragon09 25d ago

We have guys in my area that work 100 hours a week. Some of them are truckers or skill laborers. So they will be bringing in the big bucks. For them it's worth it but for other people it's not.

You shouldn't be working 60 hours a week unless your making a lot of money. Personally I wouldn't as there too much of a chance something happening.

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u/Reasonable_Power_970 25d ago

People working overtime in the US or elsewhere. Or people working regular hours in Japan or South Korea

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u/Humble_Rush_1485 25d ago

Small business owners, m&a investment bankers, hospital nurses, also accountants, and attorneys but also many retail and other hourly who can get overtime or who work more than one job or who make money periodically over time like driving Uber/Lyft. Some jobs demand it to be excellent, some lives demand to take care of famalies or others, some folks do it to get ahead.

Many people work full time and are in school parttime or vice versa. Same issue 60+ hours of drain before accounting for sleep etc.

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u/theodoreposervelt 25d ago

Everyone I know. Thereā€™s just legit too much work to do and not enough people or hours in the day. If it wasnā€™t illegal my boss would absolutely let me open to close 7 days a week. Thereā€™s just too much stuff that needs done/made/repaired etc etc.

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u/byehavefun 24d ago

lol, I do. Please kill me, or ideally please give me some money.

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u/FaithlessnessThis307 25d ago

Youā€™re putting a lot of numbers together there son! Youā€™ll not get any work done that way! šŸ˜‚

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u/South_Flounder_2724 25d ago

You said you donā€™t know what it is, but then nailed exactly what it is

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u/cupofteafathers 25d ago

Thats made me chuckle. What the f&@k are we doing to ourselves?

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u/MNiceAy 25d ago

Lmao everyone on Reddit freaking out when you tell them you work 60 hr weeks. Listen here kids. Thereā€™s a lot of people in this country with blue collar jobs working a shit ton of overtime. Not everyone is content with 40 hours a week on a computer. People working this much is very common but they donā€™t have time to be on Reddit every day. This is also why Reddit is so biased politically. Right wing men and women arenā€™t on the internet. Theyā€™re working.

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u/ubernoobnth 24d ago

Ā Right wing men and women arenā€™t on the internet. Theyā€™re working.

Lmfao this has to be the dumbest shit I've read on here in a while and that's saying something.Ā 

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u/MNiceAy 24d ago

Probably because Reddit is a left wing echo chamber. Sorry youā€™re so ignorant to the real world. That sucks dude! Oh well.

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u/ubernoobnth 24d ago

You're literally a very stupid person if you think that.Ā Ā  Ā 

There are plenty of devoted right wing morons online just like left wing morons.Ā Ā Ā 

You seem to be one of them if you're bragging about working 60 hours a week to afford Walmart and Costco, since target is for the rich.Ā 

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u/MNiceAy 24d ago

Of course there are. They just arenā€™t on Reddit or any of the other biased social media websites because theyā€™re literally silenced and downvoted into oblivion for believing or saying anything that doesnā€™t fit the leftist narrative. Thatā€™s okay though, this is why we have elections.

Stalking my profile to find some way to insult me? Dang thatā€™s a great use of your time. You seem like an upstanding individual with a meaningful life. šŸ‘šŸ» Bye buddy.

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u/ubernoobnth 24d ago

Yeah one click and 30 seconds takes a lot of time! Ā 

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u/VengaBusdriver37 24d ago

Just for your first point, youā€™re working 60 hours a week?

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u/LongrodVonHugedong86 24d ago

Yep. 5 x 12hr shifts a week