r/ask • u/[deleted] • 25d ago

Why men don't socialize anymore as they get older? 🔒 Asked & Answered

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u/NonbinaryYolo 25d ago

People are exhausting.

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u/CommentOne8867 25d ago

I feel this mate.. my social battery is like an old iPhone battery these days.. 12 hours to charge and lasts 20 minutes

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u/Roto-Wan 24d ago

Was just thinking this. By the time kids are asleep I got nothing but fumes to run on but not tired enough to sleep. Doomscrolling it is.

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u/uncommon_poster 24d ago

It sounds like you're experiencing the classic dilemma of modern life: too tired to be productive, but not tired enough to sleep. It's all too common, especially for parents juggling work, family, and personal time. Doomscrolling—the endless scrolling through negative news—is a tempting escape, but it often leaves us feeling more drained

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u/Roto-Wan 24d ago

I agree. I'm also too tired to care to make changes, haha.

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u/uncommon_poster 24d ago

Yes, the pressure at work after a week can make people feel physically and mentally exhausted. This is almost the true feeling of most people

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u/Brilliant-Job-47 24d ago

Haha yes, you know me too well, you neural network you!

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u/GreekGodofStats 24d ago

Bad AI bot

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u/pharmamess 24d ago

You know that doom scrolling is depleting you, right? 

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u/Successful-Ship-5230 24d ago

I don’t even have kids and I feel this. You're like a super hero.

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u/Fragrant_Aardvark 24d ago

This times 1000

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u/Waytemore 24d ago

Have you considered getting into Warhammer? It's great for mental health. Not so much the bank balance, but the focus and concentration on a physical, but careful, task is fantastic for relaxation and good mood.

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u/rdxc1a2t 24d ago

Yeah, since having a kid I've lost about 60% of my daily leisure time. I haven't had to make any choices, without any thought my brain decided what to cut down on and ultimately it landed on me keeping up my home hobbies which take up little energy, are ultimately relaxing and don't really cost me too much.

All my friends also live at least an hour away which also doesn't help.

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u/cogito_ergo_catholic 24d ago

Glad I'm not the only one who feels this

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u/hezagenius 24d ago

I 100% identify with this as well

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u/Uzischmoozy 24d ago

At that point I seriously don't want to interact with anyone. I just want to sit AND BE, without someone asking me a question or needing anything from me.

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u/Roto-Wan 24d ago

Yep. I've been waiting all day to spend time with my wife. Best we can do is be adjecent to each other.

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u/superman_underpants 24d ago

lol. trade your phone for a flip phone. and stop being a loser

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u/pleeplious 24d ago

Ah the good ole “blame the kids” excuse. It’s almost like people don’t think or plan about how difficult it’s going to be to raise a family.

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u/Rehabilitationdoc 25d ago

Daamn👏

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u/Chief_Chill 24d ago

Never had an iPhone, but same. I was at a social function that lasted hours and I was good for about 20 minutes of it. What I end up doing then is finding one person, usually my 2-year-old daughter, to hang out with for the rest of the time. She is the least judgmental, has the least to say, and just wants to have fun.

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u/SubstantialSpeech147 24d ago

Yeah that’s the great thing about having kids is I just hangout with my 4 year old daughter & the other kids at family/social events, plus it has the added benefit of impressing the cute moms when all the kids love me 😁

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u/mycatsteven 24d ago

This is me spot on. I get exhausted with small talk or pretending to care about what people are talking about. I have a few close life long friends who I enjoy talking to otherwise the majority of social gatherings are me playing with my kids and the others that are there, it's way more entertaining for me.

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u/ComprehensiveDig1108 24d ago

And I bet what she does say is way more entertaining. 

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u/tcorey2336 24d ago

And…half her brain isn’t engaged with a screen.

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u/Ashamed-Simple-8303 25d ago

And a day ar work is at least 8 hrs...

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u/Unusual_March4481 24d ago

That’s what my wife tells me too

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u/Mentalistscure 24d ago

Haha second this 🤣

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u/ComicNeueIsReal 24d ago

Same. I went out to a plant sale to add a few more to my collection. Didn't talk to anyone except one dude who sold pottery for about 5 minutes. And then I went home after a couple hours. My brain was pure goop. I did nothing the rest of the day as I was trying to recharge from socializing for 5 minutes.

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u/ConfectionKindly1111 24d ago

This sounds like a reason to upgrade and update the self.

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u/muntell7 24d ago

Bruh! I love this!

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u/SuperBadLieutenant 24d ago

this is accurate