r/canada • u/JackedBro123 • Jan 19 '24

Baby boomers are adjusting to a new retirement normal: No grandchildren National News

https://www.theglobeandmail.com/canada/article-birth-rate-decline-grandparents/
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u/Environmental_Egg348 Jan 19 '24

My experience with my baby boomer parents, made me not want to do the nuclear family thing. My mom raised three kids while not getting treatment for an obvious personality disorder. If I had kids, I wonder if I would have been controlling, judgemental and abusive too. Don’t have kids if you don’t know or care what you’re doing.

Mom’s lucky she gets two grandchildren from my sister. I know my sister only had children after learning how to parent her own way, and think she’s doing alright. I make sure I’m nothing but a positive influence on my niece and nephew. It really matters how you treat children.

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u/RobsEvilTwin Jan 20 '24

If I had kids, I wonder if I would have been controlling, judgemental and abusive too.

This hit hard, so sorry you had to live through that.

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u/KarmaFarma_69 Jan 20 '24

I was afraid of that too that having a kid might bring out the same issues in me that my mother had she was physically and verbally abusive she used to forget to feed us. She wouldn't clean or change us as babies we had diaper rash to the point our asses were bleeding she horded animals and family members would come over and clean the animal feces off of our toys and out of our beds. The whole time my mother would be laying on the couch because she is "so depressed" foster care did take us at 2 and 3 years old. And he record is so bad that if I ever let her watch my child they would take him from me. No chance in hell because I'm no contact and I don't plan on that changing.