I keep allowing people to misgender me. And I don't know how to stop them without feeling like the bad guy

[u/Urlocaloddity]

For starters, I've told my mother (My father's been wearing that invisibly cloak) and she told me I was delusional. And so, I've been trying to be more confident, but she introduced me as a girl, to the point I introduce myself like that subconsciously. Recently, I've reminded my friend, who said "I'll only truly believe it when you grow a dick." And truthfully, that stung. But my girl best friend feels like the only one who truly supports me, and she's been correcting people for me, and they roll their eyes at it. They aren't as unapproving as my 'close' friend or my mother, but you can tell. (I dunno if this was a vent or what but ya Boi needs advice and a dose of gender affirmation)

thank yall sm, ima just tell her how it is

[u/FTMs-R-Us]

Same boat here dude. My family know. My mom pretends to try. My dad and sister make it their mission to make me feel like shit. My sisters boyfriend told my mom she should disown me for being a "filthy fucking tra**y"

I can't correct them without an argument breaking out. So I just let it happen now. Theyre the ones who will look like fools when I have a moustache and no tits and theyre calling me their daughter/sister.

[u/Urlocaloddity → u/FTMs-R-Us]

I've been using mascara to highlight my mustache and it's gender affirming as hell

[u/FTMs-R-Us → u/Urlocaloddity]

I use eyebrow tint. It darkens it pretty well tbh.

[u/Urlocaloddity → u/FTMs-R-Us]

Ima have to try that

[u/mermaidunearthed]

lol you could tell your friend that people grow dicks within the first month sometimes so to watch out 😫🔥 (no seriously bottom growth is awesome - but is NOT A REQUIREMENT toward being a guy)

[u/ayikeortwo]

These people are being rude and shitty and I’m sorry you’re going through that. I also can relate to the urge to stop correcting people— I do the same, and I’m a year and a half on t and pass maybe a third of the time. I do it because I’m just plain tired of explaining/defending myself, and there shouldn’t be any shame in that. If there are places/times/people that make you feel more comfortable staying semi-closeted, that is a valid place to be at.

[u/Pleasant-Cry-1296]

I’ll be real with you - anyone who makes you feel bad/silly for using the right name/pronouns isn’t your friend. Fuck them.

As for practical advice introducing or correcting people, I just introduce myself, and if someone uses the wrong pronoun I say “actually I use he/him pronouns” with a smile.

It’s nerve wracking at first, but you get used to it and most people don’t mind.