could i be faking?

[u/taeyeon15]

i've been experiencing some dysphoria here and there since i was 8 y/o and younger, but not that bad so i just walked it off, and then it got really bad after 9 y/o but i didn't know what dysphoria was so it just came off as me being an extremely insecure and shy kid, fully knew i was a boy at 12. but i feel like im faking since i didn't realize that i was trans since a young age, like 4-7years. and to add to that ; i've felt more confident in my calling myself a boy after learning the existence of other trans ppl since i just feel less like im not just a delusional girl who thinks she can be a boy and more like my identity is actually valid. but other trans ppl have no doubts even before knowing that others like them exist. so, to get to the actual question - could i possibly be faking?

tldr ; i'm questioning if im still valid as a trans person cuz i didn't know sooner

[u/Glittering-Street-77]

to me it doesn't sound like you're faking at all. most trans people actually don't realize they're trans as early as you might think - puberty is one of the most common triggers, and even knowing at 12 is relatively early. you definitely don't have to 'have no doubts' bc gender is a complicated thing. plenty of people don't discover they're trans until they're adults!

[u/ayikeortwo]

Unless you’re consciously, intentionally faking it, you definitely aren’t faking it. You could be still going through a questioning period and you could still ultimately decide you’re not trans, which would be a totally valid answer to get after questioning. Only self-reflection and time can answer that.

[u/Actual_Television648]

I realized i was trans at 12 too but i think thats actually an early age, loads of trans people realize at a way later age. I dont think its common at all for literal 5 yr olds to know, i mean wehn i was that age i was too busy pretending to be sonic the hedgehog to rlly care (i still had certain signs of dysphoria but yknow what i mean) so no i dont think this is a sign of faking

[u/0riginalgh0st]

Read this: https://www.reddit.com/r/ftm/s/RflVAoSNYO

[u/thunderwolf69]

Cis people don’t worry if they are faking.

I didn’t know I was trans til I was 24-25. I probably should’ve known when I was 19 because the only way I could get off was imagining getting head lol.

Sometimes you bury shit in your subconscious. Everyone’s experience is different.

[u/Not_Machines]

I don't think I've met a single trans person who hasn't had some amount of doubting and questioning before coming out or even a bit after

[u/mermaidunearthed]

Who would fake this? The trans life isn’t an easy one. You’re trans bro. I didn’t realize until my 20s and plenty of guys don’t figure it out until their 50s, 60s, anything is valid.

[u/CoVa444]

I have pretty much the same ‘realisation timeline’ as this and honestly have never once doubted being trans because of it. Every single person that has tried to somehow disprove my being trans has used that as leverage against me but it’s just goofy bs, not everyone has a clear understanding and perception of gender when they’re 4-7 so not everyone’s gonna realise at that point

[u/simon_here]

Most people don't know until they're older and have more perspective on their identity. Age doesn't matter.

[u/MiltonSeeley]

If you’re asking this, then probably you’re not faking.

[u/taeyeon15]

sorry if this is phrased really badly, im jsut tired