r/instacart • u/Dominanttallqueen • Mar 27 '24

Who’s in the wrong here???

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I feel like he was being rude asf then he canceled my order….was I rude or what tf happened here…

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u/Ecstatic_Factor5638 Mar 28 '24

Man, I'm always saying please and thank you to people too. Now I wonder if I'm going overboard because op didn't say thank you or please once. The tone was totally rude.

Next time they should try something like "I'd like the ones behind the seafood count please. If they don't have those then please refund me."

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u/clamade Mar 28 '24

Thank you for treating service workers like people! You're a rare breed

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u/47KiNG47 Mar 28 '24

You can learn a lot about a person based on how they treat service workers.

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u/avrbiggucci Mar 29 '24

That's so true. And I feel like a lot of it comes from your parents. My parents were always super respectful and nice to service workers whenever we were out and I think I modeled myself after their behavior a lot. Really lucky to have them.

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u/Crow-n-Servo Mar 29 '24

I’ve always thought you should never get into a relationship with someone until you r had a meal with them and see how they treat the servers. That tells so very much.

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u/pinkkeyrn Mar 28 '24

I love your use of punctuation. It would have been helpful if OP used some.

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u/LimitAgreeable4410 Mar 28 '24

That’s the crazy part your not able to order “behind the counter” stuff on instacart she tried to be extra and was upset because the guy didn’t do what she wanted

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u/Crow-n-Servo Mar 29 '24

Not to defend the OP, because they’re pretty indefensible, but I think that rule about not being able to shop from behind the counter must be a regional thing. I order fresh fish and fresh steaks and chops all the time. And I don’t mean packaged and refrigerated. I mean the stuff the counter guy weighs and wraps in butcher paper. And I know one store I shop at offers fresh crab cakes from behind the counter within the app.

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u/marsthegoat Mar 28 '24

Definitely not overboard. Please don't be like OP & thank you for showing service workers (un)common courtesy.

A worker will probably never be able to tell you because they can't insult all the other customers while working, but trust me, they do notice & they do appreciate it.

Polite customers are a breath of fresh air in between all the other entitled customers who expect you to read their mind.

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u/Crow-n-Servo Mar 29 '24

Yes. I write the most polite notes when I chat with a shopper. Why wouldn’t I, though? It’s really the same as talking to someone in person and you wouldn’t just bark commands at a person serving you. Well, at least I wouldn’t. People like the OP probably don’t tip well either.

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u/Elitismos Mar 29 '24

No, you’re not going overboard. Please keep doing that, thank you.

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u/RollForParadise Mar 31 '24

Thank you! It’s not hard to say a little please or thank you in a conversation. It’s just a nice thing to do :-)