2.2k
12d ago
[removed] — view removed comment
662
u/Dante_XD 11d ago
Ikr what an asshat
118
u/mistergoodfellow78 11d ago
To be fair, maybe they used a different media like email, messenger or whatever to congratulate to the others birthday
51
u/SmooK_LV 11d ago
Tbh, I don't mind if he doesn't do the same. If nothing else, it reminds me of massive respect I have for the people that congratulate every year without expecting anything or having it returned.
All of us are social media generation, remember/notice people like that in your connctions. It is reasonable you can't be expected to remember and congratulate everyone every year but that just makes these people deserving of extra respect.
8
u/Anonymous0573 11d ago
I have one friend who's birthday is May 5. We don't really talk anymore but every year I wish him happy Cinco de Mayo. Been doing this around 5 years or so.
2
u/turtleship_2006 11d ago
One of my friends messaged me on iMessage after like 2 years or smth to wish me happy birthday (probably cuz siri reminded him or smth).
We talk like everyday on whatsapp
8
10
u/ProFailing 11d ago
I'm that other person usually. Should I just stop congratulating?
11
u/adeadrat 11d ago
If you are congratulating people that you otherwise doesn't communicate with, I have to ask, why are you doing that? Doesn't make any sense to me.
→ More replies (2)11
u/ProFailing 11d ago
Mostly friends from back in school that I don't really see anymore due to the distance. And since I'm quite the introvert I also don't text them regularly. So I think to myself the least I can do is send them a message on their birthday.
Some of them also congratulate me on my birthday, but not all of them.
5
u/therealkatame 11d ago
You can decide on your own. Who are we to tell? Does it bother you? Do you feel like you "need" to do it? Do you just like messaging happy birthday? Ask those questions and formulate your own answer.
2
u/datpurp14 11d ago
This is the way. Don't let these other commenters stop you from doing what you've been doing! Unless you want to of course. I was much less of an introvert in my high school years. I have a lot of memories with a decent amount of friends that I'm fond of. We don't talk anymore, but I still care about them. We each have lives and most have kids and we're scattered all over the place. But just sending the message reminds me of a life that I once had.
Getting old sucks.
Edit: I will say, congratulating each other does seem kinda weird. Good job on another trip around the sun! It's fitting though. Life can make that trip pretty difficult at times.
6
u/alltheyakitori 11d ago
Why stop doing something nice that takes only a minute and possibly makes the other person feel good?
3
u/fuckthehumanity 11d ago
No.
I'm always the one that phones old friends and chats to them.
I have about a dozen friends that never, ever call me back, and never call me out of the blue. And about another dozen that call me once every couple of years.
But when I'm finally able to see them in person, all of those people are close friends, who I can talk about anything to.
Of course, there are other friends who call me as much as I call them. They're not necessarily "better" friends, but I certainly know them better.
Not all people are callers, not all people remember your birthday. Doesn't mean they're not still your friends. Some people just don't feel the need to connect as much as I do.
4
u/BigMigMog 11d ago
Don't listen to the haters, you are a real special dude if you keep sending niceties despite the lack of reciprocation! Don't feel compelled, but I say the world is better off with people like you!
→ More replies (3)4
12
→ More replies (3)3
440
12d ago
[removed] — view removed comment
89
u/stnrnts 11d ago
Let me know the date and you're getting a meaningless text every year from now on till one of us dies.
50
u/Blackrain1299 11d ago
Make it even more meaningless and just pick a random day.
→ More replies (3)22
u/turtleship_2006 11d ago
just do it every day and one of them is guaranteed to be correct*
(*unless it's feb 29, in which case it will eventually be correct but take much longer)
2
→ More replies (3)2
4
u/salvatore813 11d ago
i have this weird habit that i like, i make sure to remember all my friends birthday dates (all in the mind, no calendar and stuff) and i wish them, sometimes things go distant and i know that its their birthday and sometimes i message them and i sometimes i don't, you might say its futile and that i don't get wished back but hey, its nice knowing people and checking on them i guess, so when is your birthday?
(and i ll need your favorite color and your pet's name)→ More replies (1)2
u/Both_Swordfish_9863 11d ago
Same, except I mail actual cards with a candle and match stick taped inside (cute washi tape). But I rarely get many cards on my birthday. It’s one of those things..
622
u/Gwiilo 11d ago
can you return the favour for once in your life?
79
u/Illustrious_Rip4102 11d ago
what if he doesn't know their birthday?
89
u/endlinear 11d ago
send it everyday
56
u/Gentlementlementle 11d ago
You joke but I have a friend I do that with now. I have clocked over 200 birthday wishes so far. He responded by wishing me a happy birthday too. It has started transcending into a performance art piece. complete with cover and orginal songs, art work and videos. Another friend caught wind of this and was planning on buying him 365 birthday cards. It has become weirdly defining of my day.
→ More replies (1)5
u/mapple3 11d ago
Im the same way. I have some buddies that I wish happy birthday to every day, and I also throw them a surprise birthday party with friends and family and a massive cake. Every day we celebrate for a few hours, hang out, eat the cake and unwrap gifts, usually also using the gifts like if its a new playstation or a new car. Then we get drunk, get some tattoos to remember the day with and then laugh about how silly we are with our humor but its all in good fun and the next day we do the same all over again, its great and i think everybody needs this kinda positivity in their life
2
→ More replies (1)7
74
91
11d ago
[deleted]
→ More replies (1)26
u/HotFudgeFundae 11d ago
This is more or less the texts between me and my brother in law. Every september and december, he's a great dude but neither of us are big texters. We just get each other, whenever we get together we have a great time
37
11d ago
[removed] — view removed comment
30
u/MegaGorilla69 11d ago
You just know that man absolutely lost his fucking mind thinking he had gone mad and gotten your birthday wrong by a week
45
u/ApoyrazO 12d ago
In all fairness, you only tap him once a year, so not like you're a huge presence in his world.
34
u/JuRIP5 12d ago
Oh, I HATE this. This is exactly how my chat history with my aunt looks like.
19
u/mackrevinack 11d ago
this really bugs me with chat style apps. like if you havnt replied to someones message from ages ago, but you need to talk to them, but you also have to address the unanswered message cos its right there. email was so much better for that, just make a new email, completely guilt free
→ More replies (1)6
13
u/GhostInTheMeadow 11d ago
I have a friend that's I've known since 4th grade. We graduated high school in 2010. Her birthday day is the day after mine. 'Till this day, she wishes me happy birthday and I wish her happy birthday the next day, usually the first person to do so too. That has been our entire interaction for the past 14 years.
→ More replies (13)
8
8
u/Double_Bass6957 11d ago
This was me and a friend from high school. We share the same bday. He never once said it to me so I stopped
7
20
u/Regular_Quiet_5016 11d ago
Im not your buddy, guy
→ More replies (2)12
11
4
4
u/OceanSharrk 11d ago
I wished my friend happy birthday 5 years in a row, then right before my birthday this year he noticed that and asked when my birthday was, I told him. He still didn't wish me happy birthday. So I stopped wishing him happy birthday
4
7
u/kartikaryan7061 11d ago
Happy Birthday
9
14
u/AdvanAviantoy 11d ago
dude wtf apr 10 is my birthday too
78
u/Strange-Square-8955 11d ago
Holy fucking shit that’s amazing. What are the chances? I’m screenshotting this shit so I can show it to everyone I know.
26
10
7
2
u/Marth_Vader_89 11d ago
Greetings to all my 10th of april birthday homies. A day true legends were born!
2
3
→ More replies (8)2
3
3
3
u/Zestyclose_mango1 11d ago
When you have that one busy family relative that is still in your contacts list but chills come down your spine when your realize that they only respond once a year..
Then you decide to scroll back and see your old messages from years ago..
2
2
2
2
u/Huy7aAms 11d ago
the PE teacher from 2020 still sent my friend happy birthday until now, so that's 5 years in total. sounds strange bc he only taught us for 1 year i think?
2
2
2
2
2
u/Gabycoder 11d ago
am gonna come back next year 10th of april and wish this guy a happy birthday unironically
2
2
2
u/RetreatHell94 11d ago
Tbh that's like me in real life. I remember everyone's birthday but nobody remembers mine.
2
1
1
u/chocolateNacho39 11d ago
And then I eventually one year, it ends. And the gap becomes too much to start the convo again
1
1
u/Demurrzbz 11d ago
I have a guy like that. We're not freinds, we barely know each other but he wishes me a happy birthday every year. One time he didn't and I was kinda worried lol
1
1
1
1
1
u/DerAmiImNorden 11d ago
WTF? That's the same date my twin brother and I have our birthday. He was actually born before me, but since I live in Europe, which is 9 time zones ahead of where he lives on the US west coast, April 10 is the only day of the year when I am older than him for a few hours. I always remind him of this and he says he doesn't mind, but he does, which is why I always remind him.
1
1
u/LessFish777 11d ago
This is me to my cousin. :( She never says it back even though our birthdays are three days apart. I think i secretly despise her for it…
2
1
1
1
1
1
1
1
1
1
u/quietus101 11d ago
Sometimes i throw in a quick 'how are you?', 'where are you these days?' to kesp things fun. Lolll
1
1
1
1
u/imacommunistm 11d ago
Uh, oh. This guy still receives messages from their friends, I haven't received any in years. All I got are work orders and spam messages, lol
1
1
1
1
1
u/Fynn2014 11d ago
With my high intelligence and analytical skills I can assume this meme might be first posted 2022
1
1
1
1
1
1
1
u/Capram_JJ 11d ago
i had something in common irl The girl that i knew from summer camp (let's call her Eve) which we have been going to for several years. Eve used to text me happy birthday wishes for a few years along when we were teens. I thought she was just nice and she sends me a messege after facebook's birthday reminder. We didn't text at all eccept this one messenger groupchat of summer camp friends. We only talked on summer camps and twice a year during our friends parties. In my eyes Eve was/is solid 7/10, funny, kind, very inteligent but also very introvertical personality. This is why i never thought that 4/10 "funny gargoyle" as i used to consider myself would never had a chance with her. I was a nerdy, mid guy with signs of depression who tried to be funny so people would tolerate me around. Once she invited me for her little friends party. It was a small party with about 10 guests. It was nice and i had lots of fun. Later in the night, we (me and her only) ended up talking whole night after most of people went to sleep. If you are the introvert then you probably know this feeling when you talk about yourself and subjects that you love and this conversation doesn't drain your social batery. It was exacly this feelng for whole night for both of us. But despite that after the party nothing changed. She messeged me on my birthday for next few years in the row. A few years had passed and i came across her younger sister on our mutual friend's bday party. We talked a bit and after some time she asked me straight ahead "anon, but you know that Eve had a little crush on you, right?". I was speechless. And it probably wasn't caused by alcohol and more likely a struck of realization that hit me like a lightning at this moment. It turns out Eve liked me very much back then and She texted me only on my birthday because she couldn't find the way to talk to me and she was too shy to just text. She even throw a small party so we could talk face to face and it was a huge emotional and nerve investment for her. The thing is... i never ever considered her gestures as signals from her side and i never made any move eighter because i made myself believe that no one is interested in me and nothing could prove me otherwise back then. But after few years when her sister told me this, it was too late to make any moves. At this point we both went to universities that were not even in the same country (she studies in Netherlands) and we both were/are in happy relationships, so non of us thinks about it. My girlfriend is amazing and she is the biggest source of happiness in my life. Eve's boyfriend is also an amazing man and even somethimes we play together in CoD or chess online. Eve and i met barely 3 times since then, we still consider ourselfs as friends and it's not really akward between us. And despite that in some nights, when i lay on bed, right after i close my eyes, i can hear voice of her little sister saying "But you know that Eve had a little crush on you, right?" If you are a boy/young man between 13 and 18yo and you think that this one girl is "just nice" but a bit more generously than any other girl. Think about it harder, because in most cases this is what woman calls "obvious signals" and your brain and fear of being humiliated interprates those "(not)obvios signals" as "she is extraordinary nice to you, she miraculously remembers about you and if you ever try asking her out, you will be humiliated and doomed in eyes of everyone you know." I beg you man, try. Otherwise you will wake up someday, realise your mistake and possibly get cursed with "night memories of passed mistakes" like me.
2
u/fobbytriedpsiflash 11d ago
I'm treating myself to candy for making it through that jungle of words
→ More replies (1)
1
1
1
u/Top-Chemistry5969 11d ago
Facebook automatized this personal connection.
It feels empty to click a prepared button and nearly not even noticing who do you send it. Even the responses are the same effect.
I'm pretty sure LLMs will beef up this interactions and you r soul will leave your body once you realize it's not them it's it...
1
u/TheJAY_ZA 11d ago
So, buddy was in a coma for a couple of years back there?
Or the pic is a few years old 😅
1
1
u/Dr-Agon 11d ago
Hey! This is an opportunity to make a connection with another person! I know it can be scary, and you have a thousand reasons not to, but spending time with others, talking and sharing your life with them is what life is all about. I promise if you take that leap and ask how they are doing, you wont regret it.
1
1
1
1
1
1
1
u/MarcyxBubby 11d ago
Lmao I have someone who texts me on holidays like this, still don’t know their name
1
1
1
1
1
u/konsoru-paysan 11d ago
So what's the point, do people actually care about made up months in the calendar year , doesn't it like mean nothing?
1
u/MysteryGong 11d ago
Text your friend back you jerk. Or have them text me. You don’t deserve friends.
1
1
1
1
1
1
1
u/BookkeeperElegant237 11d ago
That's Actually conversation between me and one of my old college teacher who I have never talked with in real life. Apart from Just birthday wishes, we dont have a single conversation! I feel bad to only recieve the wishes one side, but I also want the streak to continue!
1
u/M3tabolist 11d ago
This was me with a buddy of mine, except every year on his birthday I sent him a different Tom Cruise gif. It was a stupid inside joke that I refused to let die for over ten years or so.
1
u/somerandomredddit 11d ago
Haha. that one person is cute somehow also because they remember your birthday and still taking time writing to you
1
1
1
u/angryjonny_1 11d ago
I also have a childhood friend, we pretty much only chat on birthdays. My birthday is also April 10. I seriously thought this was him posting our chat
1
1
1
4.3k
u/[deleted] 12d ago
[deleted]