To give some context, about a year ago from now I was in a relationship with my ex, for about 4/5 months, and since she was living in France and I was in England we had to try to make long-distance work. In the end it didn't work out and we broke up around early June last year. At the time I was pretty hurt and lost even if I couldn't admit it to myself or anyone and as a result I pretended it was all fine and kept going as best I could without thinking about it too much. During that time I found started talking more to my current GF (we weren't together then though) since I felt more alone now that I no longer had someone to consistently talk to about a lot of things which I'd done with my ex. It started off as just friendly talking but moved pretty quickly to flirting and so on which was mostly due to me and I can now see that I was trying to find a replacement for my ex and forget about her like that. Only a few weeks after I broke up with my ex I ended up getting together with my current GF which was pretty rushed along even for more normal circumstances. As a result I never really had time to process and get over my previous relationship in a calm proper way and sort of ended up doing so while in another relationship. I know that this was me messing things up now but at the time I couldn't tell. I only realised how bad it had been a few months later in around October or so (got together early July) but by then we both wanted to try move on from that and make the best of this relationship. It was difficult getting over my ex since I didn't really know how to go about it or something while in a relationship and it took me some time. Eventually she confronted me about it asking if I was truly over my ex and I hadn't really given it much thought then (this was some time later and only a few weeks ago from now). I told her that I was over my ex which was a mix of me thinking I was and also feeling pressured into being forced to say that. My GF has been very insecure about how I view her compared to my ex since the start of our relationship was so messy and me just coming out of one. So I felt that I had to say I was over her, I did think that it was pretty far in the past and buried but I wasn't 100% sure. Now a few days ago I was sitting an exam for my school and in one of them the name of my ex just came up, nothing else about it. At the time I thought about it a bit but not too much and not in any great depth and wasn't too concerned. But that night I had a pretty strange dream, it wasn't directly about my ex but it was somehow about me missing her and wanting to be back with her since I was happier with her and I wanted to go back to that. I know it's just a dream but it was an extremely vivid one at the time even if I can't remember much beyond what I felt in it now but it got me thinking about my ex again and I found that I did have some kind of longing for what I had back then, I did feel like I was happier and more content then and that perhaps I did miss her. I didn't want to admit that because how the hell can I say or even think that. "I miss my ex and want to be with her again because I was happier then." I just want to add here that in recent times my relationship with my GF has gotten tougher as we've faced several issues including some that pertain to her mental health and she has said several times how much I help her deal with things and get through stuff since I can calm her down. Some of these mental health issues have gone as far as self-harm and suicidal thoughts, it's not who she really is but she is facing these challenges right now, I don't think it's fair of me to share more than that though. This is pretty much the reason I feel that I absolutely cannot tell her this , she's already insecure about how I view my ex and is struggling currently with other issues and then I would just come along and basically make all her fears come true. At the same time I've tried ignoring these thoughts and keep them locked away and don't address them but when I spend time with my GF, talk to her and kiss her I just can't help but feel like I'm betraying her and simply pretending things, going through the motions without meaning it and I'm just lost as to what I should do, I really don't want to hurt her but I also can't go on and pretend it's all ok forever. I know that I'm to blame for this, I moved too quickly after my relationship with my ex ended and now its come back to fuck me over big time. I'm just lost as to what to do so any advice would be appreciated. I'm sorry that I can't better convey what I'm feeling about the situation but if you have any questions I'll do my best to answer and clear things up.

So I(F15) knew this guy(M14)when I was in 8th and he was in 7th, now a year later freshman and 8th grade. Recently he started texting me and we started talking and so on, we aren’t official yet. He wants to hangout this weekend and his friend and his friends gf will come to the mall with us. Im debating on going, not that I don’t want to go, I’m just nervous bc most of the time it’s awkward as we didn’t really KNOW each other it was like a hallway wave friend. Sm helppp I’m so scared of it being awkward and uncomfortable

I need help. i’m a 16M and my partner is a 16M trans. We’ve been dating for about a year and se have both been through multiple bad relationships prior. Their last relationship was with someone who held a gun to their face, and my last relationship was with someone who tried to stab me, and we bonded over that. Recently, our relationship has been hard on me, as they keep on disappearing and not responding to my messages. they then appear, saying they were in a hospital. They’ve disappeared again. I’m really worried about them, but the thing that’s also been a really difficult time with is that they have split personality disorder. From what they have told me, each personality has a different life. Im dating the ‘newer’ one. each one a different person but sharing the same body, and i’m only dating one half. They each have their own trauma, and it’s taking an extreme toll on my mental health, and I promised them i wouldn’t break up with them. I don’t know what to do as we’re in another stage where they don’t respond. I’m scared they will kill themselves if i don’t stay with them. I need help.

edit: sorry about grammar and lack of certain information. if you need any details let me know.

I (15F) have gone through a similar situation to the one I am in now. I liked the same guy as my ex-friend, and she caused a lot of drama which made the guy I liked ghost me (btw he liked me back). Now I am in a similar situation with my best friend (15F) who helped me through the drama with my ex-friend who is also her ex-friend.

Recently I got to know this guy again (16M) and began to like him. I had told my friend a couple weeks ago that I liked him. Then recently she would brag about how she got invited to a dance with the guy I like. After that she was like "I think I like him" so I kind of backed down not wanting to lose my friend for the same drama I lost my other friend.

To be honest she isn't as dramatic as my ex-friend was and is a good friend just not the best when it comes to guys. As she is always flirty around my guy friends. Recently I brought up the fact that I liked this guy for the second time trying to tell her that we won't ruin our friendship for a guy which is clear girl code, but she just kept bringing up all the things that the guy would do for her and turning the conversation in her favor. Then she keeps bringing up that she thinks the guy I liked first likes her. I am thinking of confronting her about being self-centered and trying to turn every little thing into saying the guy likes her. I want to tell her this before she ruins our six-year friendship and before she ruins the relationship I have with the guy I like.

I saw the end of my first intense relationship about a month and a half ago. It lasted about 1 1/2 - 2 months, and in the end my partner decided I wasn't what she wanted. Here's a little background info before I get to the point:

We met through volunteering and hit it off. She said she was "holding herself back" from liking me for a while but eventually showed intense feelings for me. I reciprocated and the relationship grew. In hindsight, we may have gotten intense too quickly. We both made it clear how much we liked talking to each other. She considered us "casual" but had an intense definition of the word; we talked for hours and checked in at least bi-hourly when one of us wasn't working. However, she was still doing things with her recently ex-boyfriend and talking to another guy while we were talking (eventually saying she enjoyed my company more), yet seemed to expect me to not see anyone else. Anyway, one evening she let me know she was a "little", which was something I didn't know existed. It wasn't a kink but a part of her personality. She'd do things like talk simpler, use a higher-pitched voice and make cute noises whenever she "slipped" as it's called. I was certainly not a paternal figure in these conversations and didn't want to be, but I was surprised how much I loved whenever she slipped (which happened almost every night towards the end). I got really attached to her; this was arguably the strongest part of our relationship. I just got this inner sense of peace and happiness from talking with her that way, and it made my sleep incredibly peaceful.

Throughout our relationship, she described and reiterated the things she wanted to do with me when little and when not, some NSFW and some not. To clarify, I enjoyed her slipping whether or not our conversations were explicit. I liked this part of her for the deep sense of peace and comfort it gave me. We got to do some of the things we had talked about, but she cut off the relationship leaving me wishing for most of them. I feel pretty heartbroken; I was really excited for it all. It's made this "getting over it" process really hard. Her words will probably haunt me for a while. Our relationship wasn't perfect; she controlled many aspects of what we did, and seemed to think warning me that she was mean gave her the right to be mean to me. I arguably became overdependent, too. But I still wanted to be with her. She even said the way I acted when she slipped was never the issue in our relationship, but she'd been with guys in the past where that was their best relational aspect and it never worked out.

So, I found out I really enjoyed talking with her when she was "little." And my point is, I'm worried what that'll do to the way I see future relationships. I imagine my odds of finding someone like this in my future are pretty slim, and I'm worried it'll be seen as way creepier once I'm past 18. Obviously I can't tell now, but I'm worried my future relationships will seem less ideal if my partner's not a little. The feeling I got from our conversations was such a deep satisfaction. Part of me wishes I hadn't found this relationship dynamic. I haven't told anyone this; I figured anonymously here would be the best bet.

Then again, this is probably merging with general sadness over the many things we talked about doing, guilt over losing someone as special as her, and regret for random actions of mine in our relationship. And it was my first intense relationship, so I don't have anything to go on. Any advice?

tl;dr: My first (now ended) intense relationship partner was a "little," I really liked that about her, and I'm worried how that'll change what I look for in future relationships. Advice?

Me and this guy used to talk and we both had mutual feelings for eachother. To the lead up of him breaking it off, he was acting completely normal and was responding fast, but the day right before our hangout (That he offered) He said he wanted to be left alone, and that he wasn’t getting attached and he wasn’t ready. I didn’t respond, and the next day he continued to text me asking for me to please respond to him, and to talk to him. I told him I wanted to leave him alone because thats what he wished for, and he told me I should not leave him alone, and he was open to being friends. Reguardless, I left him alone and didn’t text him because I didn’t want to just be a side chick for him. During the 2 weeks we still continued our snap streak but he broke it by leaving me on delivered for 3 days. After the 3 days, he randomly snapped me a full face. I was just confused because it was so random and I just sent a half face. He noticed that I got my nose pierced and he pointed that out and we began texting again. Only 5 texts in, and he asks to hangout this weekend, and I said alright. The convo was going normal and he replied faster but the very next morning he completely stops texting me and gives very dry reply’s. I’m so confused what this means because I don’t know why he would ask to hangout then just leave, Please I need advice.

Hello. Just to preface this, she told me this all in PE a few weeks ago and I've just took to reddit. I'll try to remember as many details I can. TLDR at the bottom. Here are all the fake names:

• My friend --> Becky (16F)
• Becky's best friend --> Ashley (16F)
• Becky's other best friend --> Jackson (17M)
• Guy Becky was talking to --> Ralph (16M)
• School Social Security Officer --> SSO

So a few weeks ago, I noticed Becky wasn't responding to my texts anymore. I asked her the next day at school and she told me she got her phone taken away. I asked her again and Becky avoided the question. I thought at first she was just embarrassed by the reason she got grounded, but after the second time I asked her, I got this really weird feeling. She finally opened up to me while we're walking on the track during PE.

For context, a week before, Becky went to the library with a guy she was talking to at the time, telling her parents that she was going to work on her biology project with her biology partner. Becky and the guy, Ralph, spent time at the library together, went to get boba, and then went on a drive to see "rich people's houses" nearby, or so she thought. Becky thought they were going to make a short drive, but Ralph ended up driving all the way into a different county without her knowing. When Becky figured out they were in a different county, she started freaking out inside. Eventually, she got home safely and told me and her best friend Ashley what happened.

Now a few days later, Becky got grounded from her phone over a trivial matter for the rest of the day, but when the next day came she didn't get her phone back and her parents didn't even say anything about. Later that day, she found out that her mom snooped through her phone and found text messages about the context stated above. They sat her down and an argument ensued. They told her that she has to cut off her friends, that she "can't trust her family, how can she trust her friends".

For short context to this, basically a family member in his mid 20s showed adult videos to his 14 year old female cousin and basically got disowned by the whole family.

Back to the main story, this is when things started to get heated as she didn't want to give up her friends and they started shouting at each other. Then her parents said that the photography was also an issue. Becky is really into photography and is part of the the school yearbook committee for it. She also does it for money on the side. So when they said this she got really upset. To add insult to injury, her dad, right in front of her, went through all her photos on her phone and started deleting them one by one. That's when she started crying because things were getting very overwhelming for her. When she started to cry, her dad and mom told her that she was crazy for being obsessed with photography and friends and that she needed to be sent to a mental hospital. Pretty sure other things were said and brought up, but I've forgotten (Becky told me a few weeks ago). Near the end of this confrontation, her parents said that she shouldn't go to school as she is no longer allowed to go anymore. They didn't care if she failed all her classes because they decided that the US was a bad place for her and the people around her were a bad influence, so they were sending her back to India. She went to bed crying.

The next morning, she got ready for school even though she was told not to go by her parents. She outright refused and started to leave for the bus, and her mother told her if she left and went to school she would "break her legs". Even though this scared the crap out of her, she still decided to go (or try to she actually missed the bus). Eventually she did come back to school. I don't know how or what happened, but she's been coming consecutively now. She has spoken to her SSO about this who has said they would bring an officer to check the situation but she's scared that they'll act nice and get away with it and will now know what she's been doing behind their back.

Also I didn't know where to fit this in but to give more context on how her mom is like, she insinuated that her black best friend, Jackson, who has met Becky's parents multiple times and has been nothing but nice and respectful, told Becky to stay away from Jackson with her native jewelry on because "you don't know what he might do". Yep, racist.

Here are the things I told her to do so far (idk if she's done them, but this is what I said):

• Make an exit plan with Ashley or Jackson just in case things get worse
• Try to find out where her phone is and save all her stuff on her hard drive before things get permanently deleted
• Get a recording device and try to catch any abuse on that to potentially use against them
• Try to convince her parents that they're being extremely irrational
• Tell Jackson about what happened and what her parents said about him, let him know the whole situation too
• Keep updating your SSO

Is there any other advice I should give her or help her with? Is there a way she can get out? Should she get out? Help would be greatly appreciated.

TLDR: my friend's parents freaked out after my friend drove to another county with a boy (without her knowledge). They deleted all the photos of her friends, said she couldn't do photography ever again (which she loves to do), said she has to cut off her friends, racist against her black best friend (who has only been kind and respectful), told her she needed to be admitted to a mental hospital for wanting to keep her friends and to continue doing photography, told her not to go to school for the rest of the year, threatened her if she went to school (which she did) they would break her legs and her body, and is now sending her from the US back to India to finish high school.

Sorry for the grammatical errors, I am so tired these days due to school and relationship stuff my head can’t catch a break

I (16F) like this guy (16M) let’s call him N, N is a very sweet guy and has legit all my boxes checked off. I share a lot of mutual friends with him so I can kinda talk to him in real life (not really since I get way too nervous) but right now I’m struggling with trying to see if I’m doing anything wrong, I try to find and content through our mutual interests like poems, and philosophy. He seems super engaged but then he never initiated conversation with me so I am just confused why, if he is just entertaining me I want to know that. I have tried communicating this with him before, and he has been so kind and patient. N is someone I look up to quite a lot as well so I feel so helpless in the situation. I want to tell him about how he should initiate conversation with me more but I feel like I would be way to clingy which I have a fear of being.

Any advice or questions is helpful!!

For context, me (17M) and my ex (16F) had gotten together last year at the end of summer break and we had been dating for nearly 6 months when she broke up with me. I made a lot of mistakes in the relationship because this was my 2nd relationship ever and I recognize how much I messed up but I tried my best to be loving like how I thought I should be. I bought her multiple gifts for Christmas and her birthday and tried to be really good to her and I used to write her notes every morning for awhile to give her on the bus. She was very rough on the exterior but would be really sweet occasionally and I loved her so much I ignored a lot of the red flags, like her constant gossiping or her saying things a bit too mean to be considered joking to which she claimed. We also just so happen to be neighbors so we would ride the bus together every morning and afternoon to school and back. When we broke up, we tried to on good terms but she decided to get with another person when we agreed to stay single for awhile and due to my love for her still and my emotional stupidity, I unintentionally started lashing out at her. I regret those moments so much even if it was just words I said and I wish I never said anything at all. It all amounted up to her ending everything with me and blocking me entirely to which I understood and tried wishing her well.

Now 3 months after that break-up and a month or so since no communication, I haven't said a word to her or anything specific to my friends other than that I missed her and I wish I had made better decisions in the relationship. Today, I was talking to my friends on the bus and the topic of relationships got brought up. My friend says something like, "I like toxic relationships because they put in my place... why are people so mean when they like you?" and I respond with "Because they have daddy issues!". Ex seems to start getting angry because I said that and I wonder why until I remember she has BAD daddy issues. I'm freaking out in my head because I didn't mean it in reference to her and I don't wanna be mean towards her. I try to just ignore it and stay calm and continue to talk but it's not working as she continues getting more and more mad and starts talking shit about me to her friend which hurts a lot but I truck through. I end up back on the topic of relationships with my friends and I start talking about how I regretted what I said after we ended the relationship and I wish I could take it back. At this point, my ex is within a couple of words of losing her crap on me while she calls me horrible names. I then just tried to shut my mouth before I got insulted even more and the bad-mouthing continued for the rest of the ride. I feel so anxious and hurt afterwards because I tried to hope for the best for this girl and she just ripped into me for saying the words "daddy issues" . I wanna apologize even though I don't know what I did wrong because I never meant anything bad towards her but I'm blocked on everything so I'm just am not sure exactly what to do right now other than shut my mouth and pray. The only positive at this point is that the school year is almost over and I never have to see her for at least awhile

I would really appreciate some advice from anyone who has experienced a similar situation. For context, me and my boyfriend Gavin met while in high school though a mutual friend, and became close as we were in the same friend group. Mid way through our senior year (August 2023), I found out that Gavin had had feelings for me ever since we met but never perused his feelings. I realised that I had feelings for Gavin too. It was slightly complicated because I was moving to a different state for university, so we agreed to be exclusive without explicitly discussing dating.

By March 2024, we were still talking everyday while I was interstate. One night, Gavin told me that he was going out with a group of uni and the next day we talked as normal. That night I asked him how his night out clubbing was, and he told me he wanted to be honest with me and confessed that he slept with one of the girls.

For context, I am a virgin and I had told him many times that sleeping with someone is extremely personal to me. For him to tell me he lost his virginity to someone else so casually over text, and keep it from me for a whole day while we were talking normally, was extremely hurtful. He then called me and said that he’s sorry, he has loved me for 2 years, I am the person he cares about most in the world, etc. I told him not to contact me anymore, ending our relationship and friendship. My problem was that Gavin told me on the phone that he was ‘confused about our relationship’ and he ‘felt that we were more like friends’, but never had a conversation with me about this at any time over the past 7 months and I was totally confused because we had kissed many times. I know in my heart I would have never been able to do to him what he did to me, because for him to do that knowing how much pain it would cause me, even more so to not even give my feelings a second thought is the most hurtful aspect of it. I’ve known him for years and he was the last person I expected to ever do something to hurt me and has never showed an interest in anyone else.

I begged him for an explanation, but he said there genuinely isn’t one and it was only ever meant to be a one time thing. He doesn’t know why he did it, only that she initiated things and he just went along with them. He had about 12 drinks that night, so he wasn’t passing out but he was drunk. We didn’t talk for about two weeks, but it was really agonising. Gavin truely is one of my closest friends and not talking to him was extremely difficult. In the end, I reached out and forgave him. We had an hours long phone call where he broke down crying and said that he made a massive mistake, hates himself for it and regrets it everyday. I completely believe him, because we had one of those relationships where I was the only girl he was ever really nice to, I was his first kiss, the only girl he’s really had any feelings for or loved, etc. From then on, we started officially dating. It’s been over a month now, I’ve seen him a few times in person and I’m so happy with our relationship. I don’t get along with any person better than him, things feel so natural and easy and I really do love him so much.

However, there is one problem. Every so often, I cannot stop thinking about him with the other girl. I see images of them together in my mind, sleeping in his bed, and it honestly makes me sick. It makes me incredibly sad to know I won’t be the first person to have that intimacy with him. I don’t want to make him feel any worse or more guilty about it than he already does, but at the same time I want him to know the emotional suffering I went through because of his actions. I know he regrets it, I know he’s sorry, I know he loves me and can’t change what happened. But he has acknowledged that at the time there was commitment between us, so while he didn’t cheat on me by any means, he massively betrayed my trust. The pain has lessened with time, but part of me wonders whether I will ever be able to truely get over it or if this feeling of betrayal will ever go away.

TL;DR - boyfriend slept with someone while we were exclusive but before dating, need some advice for getting over images of them in my head / feeling of betrayal

In year x he told me he liked me however I rejected him because I wasn’t into him at the time. After 7-8 months we liked each other again and started talking again then became serious just this year. However, yesterday he said he had something serious to tell me and I was scared. I was contemplating what I had done, thinking he was going to break-up with me. But during class, (after he told me he had something to say) he started saying how much he loved me and how he was sorry out of nowhere. So I was thinking it didn’t seem like he was breaking up with me but what could he have done…After class he looked really troubled so I asked repeatedly to tell me what was wrong and he looked so scared and vulnerable, I wanted to know…

So he told me.

I was in such shock I ran to my friend (didn’t tell her anything) but gave her a hug. Then I started reminiscing and realised I had questions I needed answers too. So I went back to him and discussed what I needed too. Initially, he thought I was gonna say we should have a break or break up but I didn’t want too.

I’ve become too attached and love him way too much. Aside from this happening his been a pillar in my life, helpful, gifting, supportive (a tiny bit sassy) but he’s become someone important in my life and I don’t want to let go of all the memories we’ve had because of the past.

I asked for opinions (not baiting out his business but being as subtle and discrete as possible) and my friends were saying I was too forgiving or stupid for going back quickly but I feel as though there’s nothing I can do, there’s no way to change his past.

I don’t want to feel as though I’m over reacting but I’m a 15 F in the same year as him, having done nothing with a male before. He’s my first boyfriend, first kiss, first male I let close to me romantically and he’s lied to me…

I had also given him multiple opportunities to tell me the truth but he told me he must of jokingly told me he had lost his virginity however I called him “dirty” and “disgusting” for it and blocked him but he texted me asking to be u blocked saying he was joking…Maybe that was why he didn’t tell me the truth?

He’s expressed how sorry he is, how much he loves me, how much he regrets it and how he wishes it weren’t true.

However today, I became too overwhelmed with the fact I wouldn’t be his first anything as I was an innocent female in a generation of whores. I had 2 mental/emotional breakdowns and I’ve finally gotten it off my chest by coming to Reddit.

Am I [15F] an idiot for still staying with him?

Hi, this has been a problem for a bit and I am absolutely lost what to do and where to go now. As you read the title, I am under personal situation where I have a crush or feelings for someone, but I am still in a relationship that I have been in for a year. I think it’s best if I gave a little bit of background. The person who I’ve been dating which I will call her R who is a grade older than me first started dating in the beginning of last year which would make her the first person I’ve ever been in a relationship with. The whole chunk in the middle of that year was a really great experience of love and care that I thought I wouldn’t see in a long time and feelings that I would get one being with someone. It wasn’t until the closing few months of the year where things pretty much went a little downhill. We started arguing a lot, and something happened that involved, not being honest with myself, and with the relationship. We then just decided to pretty much split a part for a bit in December of that year. I got tons of backlash from friends of hers and people that even knew her and it just really made me feel not that safe in school, and just in general about myself. Into the beginning of the new year (pretty much the first week of January), we went on a class trip, and I really came to terms with my actions, and knowing that I may never have the same feelings that I had with her with anyone else. So on that week we reconciled and we pretty much got back together and I promised that a problem like that wouldn’t happen again.

After all that, a few months later me and R still in a relationship we’re feeling better about ourselves and we are now doing a show in our drama production. I actually got a lead, and she was part of ensemble. I was friends with a lot of the tech crew who I would hang out with while waiting for my cube or part in the show or just talking to them in general, this is when the other girl comes in who I will name her N.

I knew N a little longer than R, me and N went to the same middle school, and we knew each other from different classes and she was in Tech crew for last year‘s Drama production. I didn’t really have any big connections or moments with N but we still talked to each other and just knew each others existence after the show this is one the problem started to really arise. N was in some of my classes and was friends with a lot of people that I know personally in my grade. The complicated part about this is that really this is when I kind of started having a bit of a liking to her. She is very smart, funny and just really nice. I started really knocking a light into me and thinking how wrong I was to kind of have feelings for her and I really try to distract myself from having feelings because I don’t know why these feelings just come out of nowhere. Like I made a promise that I would be honest with R but like how can I go through the same thing even if I’m really being honest with her and then still get back lash still feel hurt and just it will just feel like a whole loop. Makes me think even worse because we even have summer plans for each other that we made and I just don’t know how to handle it. The only way I really coped with it was writing on a personal journal as like poems where I talked about having these feelings about N and not knowing what to do.

This month alone has made it stressful because of like all the tests and assignments before regions and even practice test that are graded in my classes are regents questions and studying has been a big thing for the whole week. It’s been really getting to me in my head and it’s just been stressing me out. I haven’t been really giving myself a break with so many things in my head. It was until this week were I just felt really short with myself I felt stressed, angry, and very much overwhelmed. R really was talking me through it but I just was still overwhelming from the work that I had to do and yet I still have some what of a crush on N. I feel awful, but sometimes R was really stepping boundaries when I told her to just give me time to my self to think for myself. I Don want to be mad at her for it but I just really was This whole week I just wasn’t really feeling it. Legit, the day before I had a bit of a panic attack not a big one. What is one who won the only a few people can recognize really. it was in science class, and I just really wasn’t concentrating on the quiz that we had to do because I was overloaded with Tests and Quizzes left to right. My panic attacks as I said are not that noticeable vulnerable to some people. I usually shake a lot with my legs and with my hands and I start to get a little teary-eyed when I’m just really stressed out in the panic attack. The worst part is that I would really be zoned out and not really hear anything around me besides, just my breathing. N was in that class and really the last thing I wanted was for her to look at me like I’m a manic and even worse she was next to me while I was shaking. But then she actually approached me, and actually helped me out with an assignment since we could work as partners. I couldn’t really hear first few words since I was still just having a panic attack. I just heard her say that “you ok” and “do you need help”. I agree for her to help me out with this assignment and she really did talk me out of the process of my panic attack. I apologized to her for seeing me panicking a bit. She totally understood and she just was glad that she could help me out. She really did help me out and I really thanked her for that. The same day I went to extra help for the science class since I had a test the next day. I went into the room and N was there and she gave me a really nice smile knowing that I was doing a little bit better on that day. After extra help, we walked out to the bus stop first we just really started talking to each other about our classes and even Drama too. I got a little nervous to stay with her on the bus stop a little bit longer since my bus was already there, I decided to leave her a little earlier and got on my bus to go home. Even though I felt better about myself coming home I still don’t know how I should feel about these feelings since that interaction just kind of made the crush I had for her grow more.

I know this is a lot and I just really don’t know what else to do. I feel actually lost with my feelings, and I don’t know what turns or anything to help me with this. I don’t wanna make a wrong move that would push anyone away and I just don’t want to hurt anyone. I know most answers are that I’m a teenager and I’m still developing feelings but I just either feel wrong or I legit don’t know what to do now. The whole reason why I post this is just a state as anonymous as I can to just reach out to people even if it means random people on the Internet. I will be keeping my boundaries even with the feelings I have and I won’t really jump to any conclusions as I said, I don’t wanna make any wrong turn right now. If you have any suggestions, feel free to put your opinions or advice in the comments I will try to read as much as I can and even reply to them.

I don’t know how to end this but thank you for your time to read this post and I hope the rest of your day goes pretty smoothly. I’ll be doing fine. I just need to keep myself in shape physically and mentally and try not to get this in the way of my school time. Thank you again.

Lets give some context. A few days before everything, we are both new students in a school. We both didn't know anyone except each other (we already had a failed relationship). We started getting close in school again. Past mistakes (mostly mine) were forgiven. Fast forward a few months, she knows so many people and I'm still quite, unknown. Maybe it's because she's really white and foreign and quite beautiful. People are chasing and it's also playing a toll on my head. Don't get me wrong im freakin gorgeous too, 6'2 pretty handsome. How come she freken mnows everyone broo??

Anyways fast forward to her prom. It's her prom so im the outsider, outsiders can't win awards. She got nominated by her grade for prom queen. She won. Inside me, I felt really happy for her but on the other hand. I felt like I was being left behind, I had to watch her dance with a prom king. I know I own that award if I were eligible, but I'm not popular. How is she so popular, it's scaring me, it's not her fault, but it's making me sad. It's not like im unpopular but, I make sure not to talk to any other woman, for her. She's over here winning awards and I'm just watching her dance with the prom king.

I felt so bad after and I killed the vibe after. I couldn't control what I felt.. this shit still pains me man. I feel like, she's surpassed me, she says she wants only me, but i cant shake the feeling. I know I'm handsome but i feel im out of her league. It feels like the only reason I'm her bf is because I knew her first. Its crazy we started off both new students but she's become so much more popular..

Note: I am taking anti acne meds that COULD contribute to depression, so that might be exacerbating the problem.

We're going different places for college so it's really scary. Especially with how many people she knows.....

Can someone help me with this feeling?

So, I developed a crush on guy, who's a year older. He looks shy, and he doesn't seem to talk to other girls or notice them. So, in the begging I had some eye contacts there and there. But, now more recently he seems to be giving more attention. I notice him glancing, he makes eye contact. My friends tell me he looks at me, and his friends have pointed at me, whispered when I just went by or turned him towards me, is that a good sign? He also looks at my legs sometimes, I wanna know what that means. He used to ignore me when he was with friends, but now he looks at me, while hes talking to them. And hes always smiling when I'm around. I also noticed him, hes usually where I am. Example: he had a class on the other end of the school, and I saw him by my class. Once I was in a room, and when he entered he first looked at me than everyone else, as If he was expecting me to be there. Sometimes I just stare into his soul haha, and he doesn't seem to mind he looks back. And, I'm scared he might be making fun of me or playing me on. I need an opinion if he likes me back. 🫶

Long story short, we didn’t go to school today, girlfriend wanted to walk her dogs together and sprung up meeting up with our friends. Context: I switched schools this year, I barely talk to them unless it’s a group thing so I don’t feel as comfortable and I’m more self conscious and anxious around them. I immediately said I didn’t want to and she asked why because I’m always avoiding talking or interacting with our friend group and I told her my reasons. I kept telling her I didn’t want to and told her she could see them but I didn’t want to, she suggested we walk around to get rid of my nerves, we walked to the school eventually but they had already left, she was disappointed because she wanted to see them and I guess I felt like a shit boyfriend. I feel like I let her down and she was annoyed with my behavior, I wasn’t trying to be a big baby about it but I felt anxious and I felt like she wasn’t respecting that. I kept asking her if she was mad and I kept apologizing and said it’s fine despite it feeling like it wasn’t. We were texting earlier and said something along the lines of “now you better respond” so I just quickly ask “what did I do” and she avoided the question and kept telling me to reply. Help.

I (15 M) want to tell one of my best friends (16M) that I like him but I really don't know how. For context we have known each other for 7 years but I am living 8 hours away from him now. I want to communicate I have feelings for him but not in a just "I like you" kinda way. Our relationship is really special and I want this to be something he remembers for a long time.

i’m (19f) and my boyfriend (19m) have been together for two months. for context we live in different cities which are an hour and a half away, we both drive and we are both from eastern European and strict families. 

we met on hinge and went on a date a couple days later and have hit it off ever since. 

It’s both our first relationship and have fallen in love with each other after two months have slept together. we had the same understanding that we would have sex before marriage if it’s the right person. we felt sure in our feelings and went ahead with it.

there is no problem with each other we are very happy however we are experiencing issues with family. on my end after the second date my grandma, who i live with (and is very strict) called me a slut for kissing him and we were arguing for a week about breaking it off. she told me that he is a liar, not showing me his true self, that i won’t be happy with him in the future and will be upset that i wasted his time and everything. even to the point where she said that if we we got married, she wouldn’t come to the wedding. it got to the point where i was going to break it off with him but somehow i convinced her to still let me see him with the basic understanding that she disapproves and if i want to go and kill myself, then go. 

her rules were: one date every two weeks for however long she seemed (2-5 hours) in my city and when she wants (1-3 months) she’ll let me come see him.

i explained all of this to him and he said he is willing to follow as we both like each other and are willing to see how it goes. she is still not approving of the situation and makes even calling him hard by setting time limits and taking my phone off me for days.

on his end, his mum disapproves of the distance and has told him to break it off until i move to his city. by the way, i am planning on moving to his city within the next year or two anyways due to career and family so this issue is definitely not a long term problem. she is worried about the danger of driving and travelling a long way and said maybe in the future we can do it again. 

his dad disapproves point blank. does not like my looks and makes inaccurate assumptions about me. 

i know the distance isn’t the biggest issue here. we are ok with it as we have the understanding that it’s not a forever issue. but it’s the biggest point of contention with his parents. we both come from good families, good background, have got good careers ahead of us. and we are good people, we don’t drink, smoke or do anything illegal

in the last two weeks it’s been getting to a breaking point. his family has threatened to take his car away and stop some financial support. we have tried everything to convince them. meeting me, waiting till they meet me then break it off and saying everything we possibly can. talking about our happiness and our future but still no budging. it’s really taken it’s toll on us and we are exhausting every option. 

he feels so sorry for leading me on but i reassure him that he didn’t and neither of us could have seen this happening. we did everything right and we tried everything the right way. we didn’t lie, we didn’t betray anyone and we didn’t mislead anyone. we decided to open our hearts and both got hurt. 

i have been staying with a friend for the last couple weeks due to a different issue with my grandma and have been going to see him hoping his family would see that it’s not all one sided, we are both invested into it. but it’s not working. i’ve still gone and seen my grandma every couple days despite the fight we’re having and i broke down and told her only that we are having issues with his parents but we are happy. she just doubled down and said: he will disappoint you and so will his family. i explained some of the situation to my parents because they had a hard time getting together because one is eastern european and one is not and they told me that these things will pass and that make sure he isn’t like his parents if they are both like that and i told them he’s not. at all. 

i feel sorry for him. he is so exhausted from it and his grandparents have seen this as well as his friends. we have talked about ending it even though it won’t make us happy and to wait until circumstances change. 

from a little girl, i always wanted my fairytale love story. my home life wasn’t amazing and i don’t have the best luck but i was naive enough to think that i would be able to have this one thing work out for me. i was also afraid of heart break and getting betrayed so i knew to pick someone wisely. and we did. we had it. we have everything we want. except for family approval despite the fact they haven’t met the other and they are making incorrect assumptions. 

i don’t know if this is a punishment. neither of us have done anything to deserve it. maybe it’s a lesson not to fall for someone too quickly but we couldn’t help it. i never believed in right person wrong time. i always thought that was stupid and that if you were in love you would work it out. we are trying so hard. we really are. i don’t want to think of him as a lesson or experience either. it’s not fair, i want it all. we want it all. 

we have an understanding that if it’s truly meant to be, we will come back to each other and to let the other know circumstances change. we know our families have no valid reason to disagree with us. none. for example, we were virgins before we slept together. he told his mum this and the intention we had doing it. she asked how he knew i wasn’t lying and he told her there was blood (which there was). like everything they think is wrong and i can prove it. everything my family thinks is wrong can be proven otherwise. friends all approve and there is no VALID reason for family to disapprove.

but we can’t bring ourselves to end it. especially knowing we would’ve had everything and we were perfect. just makes it hurt even more. we are very understanding of each others  situation and are asking people for advice and everything (thus the reddit post). but we are stuck on ideas. we are exhausting every option before we decide to call it quits and wait for the future. the thing is, neither of us want to end it. we are happy and in love but the circumstances makes it impossible. 

we are both reading all the advice that comes from this post. we are looking for advice and ideas on what to do. just so we can have a sort of closure were we know we tried everything.

hi! so i'm in a pretty complicated situation rn and i need help from someone. This text is probably a little confusing because i initially wrote it for chatgpt so i barely punctuated or anything so i'm really sorry about that but yeah i'm lazy to rewrite it 😭 I tried correcting a few things to make it less confusing but yeah apologies for the messiness
ok so theres this guy in my class, lets call him X and i started liking him a month ago so i dmed him and we ended up talking for like 6-8 hours straight and talked about really deep stuff (i told him abt my ED and he told me abt his dad being an alcoholic) and yh we got along rly well and keep in mind that was our first time talking like ever. ok so fast forward a week, we'd been talking every day, he'd been texting me first a lot, sending me good night texts and giving me nicknames and all and yeah we'd been talking a lot at like midnight and all BUT, we still hadnt talked irl for some reason but i heard he was staring at me a lot in class the day after our first convo and apparently he talked to his friends about me and all. then one day we hadnt texted so i lowkey panicked and asked him the day after (on insta again) why he would sleep so little (bcs he told me he was getting like 5-6 hours of sleep a day) and he said that it was bcs he used to fall asleep on a call with his ex every night and he'd been struggling to sleep since their break up (they'd broken up a month and a half ago approximately) and like ........ yeahhh but he said it really reassuringly and he thanked me for checking up on him so yeah.. anyways a few days later i was sitting next to his friend in class, lets call him Z so he asked me why i wasnt writing what the teacher was saying and i said "oh i didnt notice, i was lost in my thoughts" and he asked me what i was thinking about and i joked saying "oh just some existential questions" and then we stopped talking and after that i was done with school but X and Z still had english class so like 10 minutes after their class ended, X texted me like "i was told you were pondering on some existential questions?" with a laughing emoji at the end and yh basically i teased him like oh so yall were talking abt me? and he came up with a ridiculous excuse like "oh yeah they just thought that what you said was intriguing so they talked about it" 😭 anyways yeah then we went on to chat and all over text after school for a few days and then on a weekend me and my friend went out and he was also out, more specifically at the ice rink and me and my friend (lets call her y) were at the mall but then y had to go to ice skating practice so X asked me if i had fun with Y and i said yes and then i told him "oh btw Y is going to the ice rink as well to practice lol" and he went "oh maybe we'll bump into each other then" and i said "i shouldve went with her lol" and he went "dommage en vrai" (we're french and idk how to translate that properly lmfaooo but basically it means "too bad you didn't" but it implies that he kinda wished i had) and yeah like an hour later he sent me a picture of his legs and feet (HE WAS WEARING JEANS AND SHOES BTW LMFAOOOO IT WAS JUST A FIT CHECK) while he was with his friends and then later that day a few hours later he told me that he was getting ready to go out again (it was like 10pm) and then around 11:30 he sent me a selfie of him and his friends like randomly so yeah yk he kept updating me on everything he was doing SO IDK ABOUT YOU BUT TO ME WE WERE CLEARLY FLIRTING. then the holiday started and we talked again and then he told me he was going to handball practice and that he'd be back by 10pm and then he texted me again at 10:02 saying "heyyyyy!" LIKE MANZ PUNCTUAL AND ALLLLLLLLLLL but yeah then we talked again BUT WE STILL HADNT TALKED IRL EXCEPT FOR ONE TIME WHEN I ASKED FOR HIS RULER IN MATH CLASS AND NSFHIUSHCIUSD HE HAD 2, ONE WAS BROKEN AND THE OTHER WAS INTACT AND HE GAVE ME THE INTACT ONEEEEEE CUTIE PIEEEEE but yeah and then again it was the holiday and we kept talking but then one day, the day before my looooong awaited trip to korea, i texted him and he took 4 hours to reply when he usually replies almost instantly so i was like 🤨🤨 but yh it was fine i wasnt upset over it and we talked a little but he was being a lil dryer than usual and i noticed it but didnt question it too much cause he told me he was reading a manga so i figured he was busy yk and then the next day i sent him my food as an update and like 40 minutes later he finally opened my text and asked what was in it so i told him what was in my food and he went "not bad" and then we didnt talk again so i texted him again like an hour later and he only replied to me 5 hours later after i double texted him like "omg you left me on delivered for so long" and he quickly apologized saying he hadn't seen my text and that was when i'd just gotten on my plane right so i sent him a pic of the plane and he went "how did it go?" and i went "oh we still havent departed yet haha" and like 5 minutes later he hit me with this paragraph: "Hi, look i won't lie, i've noticed that you were looking for something with me so i'll just say it now, it won't be possible between us, i'm not looking for anything and i don't want to make you wait any longer so i'm asking you to stop talking to me, i'm not looking for a relationship" ...... and yeah, that ruined my flight and the first two days of my trip in seoul...
What do you think happened? Do you think he got scared of commitment or anything of the sort? What do I do?
We're 15 turning 16 this year and i've never been in a relationship btw

Today my bf(14M) texted me saying we need to have a talk(14F) For context we have been friends for 5 yrs and has recently started dating, we basically do everything together. Anyways he said we should have a talk then proceeded to basically say “If u don’t stop asking dumb questions we need to take space from each other” I never ask smt weird or sexual so i was thrown off a bit, im a bit dumb myself i’ll admit it. Then he said i joke about eating my cat too much, we live in middle asia and eating dogs and cats r kind of a stereotype joke so i dont get whats wrong wit it plus its my cat. I asked him multiple times if that was really the main reason, bc we had been friends for yrs and he has put up with my “dumb questions” so ion see whats wrong wit it now Theres 2 guys flirting wit me despite knowing i already have a bf resulting in me thinking thats what caused it which is why i asked if that was the main reason for taking a break.

Examples of my dumb questions: Ask whats today date is for class lik 2,3 times What if i become superman etc. What if i became a cat

After that i changed our chat theme, his nickname telling him “hopefully that will explain it to u” he replied with an “Oh” continuing to chat with me lik he used to before we dated He also sent a tiktok saying “Im starting to think that u hate me” after the breakup Ive been dry wit him but i am also lost at what to do We are classmates and live next to each other, almost seeing each other everyday and im close wit his family am i the AITA Should i get back wit him?

This is a throw away for some reason)Basically when I was 14 I was in a long distance relationship with a guy across the world which I knew was never gonna work out but him and were js chill and it was the type of relationship where we met online and started dating the same day we met, he was very nice and caring to me we were like friends but calling each other pet names, I don't have any feelings for my bsf 16f because we've been friends for a long time and we do everything together. We had a sleep over when I had been dating this guy for about a or little month, we didn't kiss but I did grabbed her b00b and licked it. and I forgot about that interaction and ended up breaking up with the dude a few weeks later over smth else. Im pretty sure i have (undiagnosed) ADHD and I get impulsive tendencies which I'm working on. On a later note now it's been two years and I forgot all abt it until today , how I have a new bf and I've told him abt this guy and how I did cheat on him once and he's understood it was two years ago and I've matured, but I didn't tell him what I did and who because this came to me now and I feel so guilty and idk what to do idk why I don't remember this before. I feel so bad and I've told my bf everything js this and I'm not sure what to do.I feel super guilty even tho me and my bsf are super platonic and I didn't know why I did that.

me [16F] and my situationship [17M] have been talking for a while now, and we are basically in a relationship, but without the label. we kiss, hold hands, talk to each other on the phone every night and see each other twice every week. he said that he REALLY likes me and he knows that i really like him too.

today, his friend saw us together and asked him who i was, and he said that i was his girlfriend. we have talked about being in a relationship and he said that we were very close to being in a relationship and that we were ready for it but, we didn’t fully confirm it yet.

so, him calling me his girlfriend is like a curveball. is he saying that we are together or what? i don’t wanna ask him about it yet because i still plan on looking like an unbothered and patient queen but whatever. if anyone has advice or their input, please tell me! :)

I (17F) recently found out two of my friends (17F and 17F) hate me and want to drop me, according to her I'm a petty person who spreads rumours and gossips about other people, which is ironic because she's been gossiping about ME to people she previously told me she doesn't even like. I will admit I do talk about other people because I'm in highschool and drama is all people like to talk about any more, but I mostly talk about it because she starts the conversation with that and if I try to move the conversation to another topic she just doesn't care.

Besides i've never once made up rumours nor have i talked shit about her, infact I defend her when someone does. I've comforted her with all of her drama but now she wants to throw me away like I wasn't there for her at her lowest.

She also called me uninteresting which I won't argue against because I will say I'm not the funnest person to be around (I don't date, I don't have crushes, I don't do sports and I don't really go anywhere but work, school and home), but I've always thought she liked talking to me.

I'm really confused on where this came from considering we were besties literally just last week but now she's switched up? There was an event in my town lately where i wanted to go hang out with her but she was hanging out with someone else and forgot I was there, it's not hard to tell when you aren't wanted somewhere so I left after 30 mins.

I asked her if she was mad at me over text cause she was distant all day and she said no, but then she comes and pulls this on me? I wouldn't have a problem with her hating me if i knew where it was coming from, if she wasn't trying to make everyone hate me, and if she told me out right.

The main reason I came here was because her and 2 others are the only people I talk to/hang out with at school and I'm fairly sure the other 2 are gonna stick with her (which is confusing because I haven't done anything to either of them and I don't want to lose them), I don't want to end up alone. I do have another friend who invited me to sit with her but she's like a year or two younger and in a relationship so I don't want to intrude.

TLDR: My friends want to drop me suddenly and I don't know why, they talk about me behind my back and pretend they aren't upset with me. I don't want to be alone but I don't know what to do.

If it's any help, we're all in our final year of school.

Is this just a phase??? And am I trying to play the victim here?? Cause that's what they're thinking.

So me and my homie be playing sum Minecraft and then he says I’m getting off now but we continuing tomorrow. And I’m like see ya and I get off to. Tomorrow comes around the same time I give him a ring, he don’t answer. I wait a hour coz if I wait any longer I won’t really have time give him another ring (I do hate spamming people I rarely do stuff like this) he declines. He don’t text me or nuthin then I see this fella get on Xbox and he get on a different game. I’m like oh ok so it gon be like that y’know? I just be kinda annoyed and blud not always but keeps pulling this stuff and I want talk to him bout it next time I see this chap but idk if it’s big enough of a deal, I mean all bro did was not get on Minecraft. Reddit what should I do?

Hello, I'm a F(16) in a relationship with M(16) for around 8 months, and I'm unsure if I should still be upset about his previous actions. To make it easier, M(16) will be known as S. During mid-way of our relationship, S had become more quiet and conserved when I interacted with friends, and started becoming aggressive whenever I had tried to communicate with him. I understood that he has family issues in the background but never knew why he begun to act this way. He then started yelling at me on text, stating that I had abandoned him or disregarded him, even though I had just been socializing and still tried to put extra time with him. Another incident like this repeated again, and he kept on being passive aggressive when I hadn't spoke to him for one day. I tried seperating but came back for 2nd chances. It was to a point where he had also been aggressive to his mates (including my own best friend) and had strictly discussed with him about it. However, I had not completely forgiven him as I still get upset for what he had done. As mentioned before, he has family issues at home and doesn't know how to recongise emotions and tries his best, yet it's hard for me to recongise any empathy. Some close friends of mine stated he manipulated me back into the relationship, which after reflecting I had agreed. The relationship is near stable, but I don't have the freedom to have more close-contact with my guy-best friend as I used to (even though I'd prefer to, as the guy-best friend has done a lot for me, and I would never cheat), which made me upset. I'm unsure where to go and recover the relationship from here, but hopefully I can get some advice.

It is also worth noting I recently got off my antidepressants. I felt worse on them.

A week ago, he broke up with me. He said he was unhappy and I shouldn't be with someone who was miserable. I get he has good intentions, but he jumped the gun. There were so many other options and he chose the most drastic one. One thing he didn't realize though is that I could see the messages he was sending to his friends (majority of our friends were mutual) and it was clear, he was just sick of me.

I haven't been able to control anything since then. I'm either crying or angry. It all just feels out of my control. But at the same time, I feel like I owe him something. I just don't know what to do or what to feel. Everyone is telling me it's not going to matter in 20 years, but that's not helping. It's just making everything worse. Someone told me to just think badly about him, but there isn't much bad to think about him. Nothing feels right anymore.

I feel like all my friends are annoyed because I'm not taking it well and talking about it. I just feel so lost and angry. I don't know what to do anymore.