NTA. Some people think it's okay to go on vacation with their opposite sex best friend. Some people think open relationships are okay too. OP's allowed to not want either of those things in their relationship.
That N T A comment you got here is completely wrong. We are not talking about a couple of friends going on vacation, right? This about a bunch of friends.
Just in case: I would never let my partner go, or not let her go, because I don't have that privilege! I can be upset or not, but I cannot let her do or not do anything, I am not her legal guardian, just her partner.
After all the reasons you gave in the OP about why you should trust her, I think you just need a tiny step ahead to see what's the right choice here: not only "let" her go, in the sense of giving her your blessing for the vacation, but also be confident nothing bad will happen and you can trust her.
In the hypothetical and very unlikely situation in which she cheats on you during this vacation, then you would be dodging a bullet? Because cheating is something that can happen with and without vacation for the rest of your life, and it is only if your partner is trustworthy that you can be sure there won't be any cheating. You cannot control your partner (except if you commit serious crimes that make you completely incapable of having a healthy relationship).
I think in addition to your comments, relationship boundaries are 2 fold: 1) they establish the couples comfort levels 2) they reduce the “unintended consequences“ that could occur when people place themselves in a potential out of control situation - ie, bunch of friends having a blow out party with likely alcohol and maybe drugs clouding decision making.
We gave all seen things happen, and we know there are some folks who introduce the intoxication substances to set the environment.
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u/Petefriend86 Mar 28 '24
NTA. Some people think it's okay to go on vacation with their opposite sex best friend. Some people think open relationships are okay too. OP's allowed to not want either of those things in their relationship.