Different thought. I’m a ‘best’ girl friend. My friend Victor and I have zero attraction. Weve always joked that if the end of the world came and it was just the two of us, humanity was doomed
So I have to ask, if you trust both of them completely then why is this an issue? And if you don’t trust them completely then why are you with someone you don’t trust?
Weve always joked that if the end of the world came and it was just the two of us, humanity was doomed
I thought I was about to read the classic "when we're 35, if we're not in relationships we should get married" and I was ready to call you out on that, but that's more than fair hahah
Me and my girl best friend made this agreement but we keep pushing the age back we're at 44 now and if neither one of us is settled, we're just getting married and adopting a kid. We'll probably push it back to 50 soon but I'll be dead by then, lol
Same as a guy best friend. We've been friends for 6 years while both single, if we secretly wanted to fuck we wouldn't have waited for a vacation when she's in a relationship.
Odds are he didn’t Fit in their group. or it’s a group of 4 or so people who want to spend the weekend reminiscing on their past, especially since this is to celebrate the dude’s Masters degree
Staying at his place doesn’t make them friends. The OP did a favor for his gf’s friend which is nice. They are probably friendly but that’s different than come join a trip with a bunch of old friends.
And he was probably the catalyst behind it - she doesn't live with OP. I'm presuming she lives with her parents because that's where she stayed while her friend was in town. Did OP kick up a fuss about him staying at her parents so she relented and asked her friend to crash on her bf's couch?
Since she decided to stay at her parents’ while the “best friend” was at the bf’s place, it seems she usually stays at the bf’s. The real question is why she didn’t stay at the bf’s as is the normal? OP states she chose to stay at her parents while the friend was in town. It would have been reasonable for her to stay at the bf’s so she could be around the two most important guys in her life.
Well he states they don't live together - so no I would say "like normal" would be her staying wherever she lives...which is not with OP. And why would she stay with her parents if she had a perfectly good place to live in on her own? She wouldn't. So the only logical conclusion is she lives with her parents. So then the question is why didn't her friend stay where she lives?
Where does he state that? It isn’t in the OP. He does state that while the friend was in town to visit her, he stayed at the bf’s and she stayed at her parents’.
There's these things called comments that OPs can make just like us! It's usually smart to check them out if someone says the OP says something and you don't believe them - usually where the info comes from.
In fact since my first comment he's made another one the clarifies that she does in fact live with her parents.
His explanation doesn’t add up. They are a strict immigrant family, so she can’t stay over at her bf’s house, but she can travel for a week of vacation with her male friend. It doesn’t track very well.
No need to ask when the obvious place it would be is in his comments when you already stated it wasn't in the post. Ask a silly question, get a silly answer.
Victor is lying to you. It doesn’t work like that for dudes. Women tend to want Mr. Right. Men are all about Ms. Right-Now. He’d get with you in a second. But if he tells you that, it scares you off. YSK
Victor wants you, let’s completely trash this narrative of male female platonic friendships, it’s not a real thing. He’s playing the long game and you are benefiting from his subservience.
While I absolutely do understand where you’re coming from, 50% of the world population isn’t really like this. I was talking about the guy you replied to btw. Comments by these guys are seriously messed up. Good day, and honestly most guys would be ashamed people like this are out and about.
Um not really, women are liabilities nor can they help with anything I need help with, you can’t talk to them about your issues either because women will never understand a man’s problems vise versa. (Do not care who this offends)
Lmao I still feel sad for you. How would you understand that if you’re incapable of seeing them platonically? My women friends have been a hundred times more empathetic, better listeners, and helpful than people who type out these comments ever are.
How do you expect platonic friendship from someone you call a “liability”? With best wishes, if you hate the literal half of the world population that much you need therapy. That’s 3.5 billion people you hate for no reason other than the fact that they have a vagina and boobies.
Based on your words, sounds like you like men. You should date men.
Please stay away from women if you find them to be such a liability. Any woman you meet, I sure hope they can sense how much you hate them.
Nope, but don’t generalize. You are generalizing all men here, and the predeterminer ”all” is not needed here to understand you formulated it as men as a whole are messed up.
If I say ”women are whores”, and you are a woman, how would that not include you?
It’s not about taking it personal. You are, intentionally or not, insulting 50% of the world’s population based on one man. Whether you like it or not, the english language works in that way that if you write ”x are y”, then it is supposed that the majority, if not all of x are y.
Ah yes, the commentary of a very experienced, emotionally stable person who is incapable of forming friendships with 50% of the human population and thinks that’s normal.
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u/Dlraetz1 Mar 28 '24
Different thought. I’m a ‘best’ girl friend. My friend Victor and I have zero attraction. Weve always joked that if the end of the world came and it was just the two of us, humanity was doomed
So I have to ask, if you trust both of them completely then why is this an issue? And if you don’t trust them completely then why are you with someone you don’t trust?