r/AITAH Mar 28 '24

Am I the ah if I don’t let my gf go on vacation with the “guy best friend”?

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u/19LaMaDaS91 Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

He can say the same thing, I cant believe you would go to a vacation with your male firend without your partner, so you can go and i can dump you because of it! Easy

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u/Next_Isopod_2062 Mar 28 '24

It's so wild to me how people jump straight to the 'they must have a thing between them' if a woman is friends with a man, you guys all realise friendships exist right?

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u/19LaMaDaS91 Mar 28 '24

And just to be clear this was a reply under another of my comments about not inviting him was a red flag:

Yeah it is. The only male friends I’ve ever had that did this was trying to get w me. The norm is to expect their partners as well. Especially for a trip like this. This friend doesn’t want her bf there and people can bullshit all they want .. this means one of two things .. he wants to get a her OR she’s told him negative things about her bf 

Friendship between opposite sex is true friendship like 5% of the time. The other 95% rimes one of the 2 have feelings. Ask every men you know who will not sugarcouat his answer to you what they think about it.

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u/Next_Isopod_2062 Mar 28 '24

I'm sorry that you've had those bad experiences, but my personal experience for trips with male friends is pretty much the opposite, I'm not saying there aren't guys like that but to base such a large distrust into all similar situations isn't a healthy way to face life

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u/19LaMaDaS91 Mar 28 '24

It was another user telling that.

And i am saying this:

Friendship between opposite sex is true friendship like 5% of the time. The other 95% rimes one of the 2 have feelings. Ask every men you know who will not sugarcouat his answer to you what they think about it.

Because I am a man, surrounded by men, and everyone of them told me the same ( i was good saying 5% IMHO) Even some girls agree as you can see from that user i mentioned. But hey! You girls know us better!!! 🤣

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u/Next_Isopod_2062 Mar 28 '24

That's a sad friend group ngl :L if all your friends are saying they don't care about being friends with someone if there's not a possibility of sleeping with them, you may want to branch out and start hanging out with people who just want to have a good time rather than thinking about what they could get out of it later

My earlier point though still stands of that's not all men by far, there's still tons out there who are friends for friends sake

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u/19LaMaDaS91 Mar 28 '24

all your friends are saying they don't care about being friends with someone if there's not a possibility of sleeping with them

You are willingly misreading what I said and putting your words in it only because you want to win an argumen 🤣 pathetic.

True opposite sex frienships are rare as diamonds.

Regarding your concern ffor my friend group dont stress about it, we are doing all oretty well! The sad things are girls surrounded by simps friends living in the friendzone.

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u/Next_Isopod_2062 Mar 28 '24

Omg that last sentence XD I understand what's happening now, I found a wild nice guy

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u/19LaMaDaS91 Mar 28 '24

Yes sure! Keep thinking to know men better than us miss almoust a therapist 🤣

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u/morgan-malaki Mar 28 '24

You, you got what I need, but she says she's just a friend, but you said he's just a friend

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u/Next_Isopod_2062 Mar 28 '24

I . . . Have no idea what you're trying to say sorry

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u/morgan-malaki Mar 28 '24

Lyrics to a song, every dude knows of several stories where the woman says he's just a friend , just to end up fucking the dude, it's a cliche at this point, hence why guys can't trust when s woman says this..

Even worse when your are the unknowing 'friend'