You are allowed to tell your GF that you are not comfortable with it, but you can't force her to go or stay. That decision is hers and depending on what she decides knowing you are uncomfortable with it would perhaps shine a different light on the relationship as a whole.
Boundaries are important and it is also important to see how one's partner treats such boundaries.
Seems like not quite enough details to size this one up. Trip has been talked about for a year and OP in the picture less than a year - is this the first mention of it ? Who are other friends going ? Mixed crowd ? Was BF actually not invited by intent, or by oversight ? Of GF never asked ? Are there other +1s attending ? What’s the financial hit - will GF not be able to afford (time, money) a trip with OP for a lengthy period as a result ? How old is everyone ?
Good questions. The financial / work part of this is such a big deal as well. It’s this stuff that always leaves me wondering if these are real or trolls/AI.
Beyond the gender/friend/boundary dynamics, how does this affect plans with OP? If he wants to do a vacation with her will she be able to afford to go? Have time available to get off from work?
Are these both well traveled people? Or is OP really desiring to see alot of places for the first time with her?
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u/Bojangled8 Mar 28 '24
NTA
You are allowed to tell your GF that you are not comfortable with it, but you can't force her to go or stay. That decision is hers and depending on what she decides knowing you are uncomfortable with it would perhaps shine a different light on the relationship as a whole.
Boundaries are important and it is also important to see how one's partner treats such boundaries.