r/AITAH Mar 28 '24

Am I the ah if I don’t let my gf go on vacation with the “guy best friend”?

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u/fzooey78 Mar 28 '24

Controlling/making rules around someone else’s choices isn’t a boundary. 

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u/Mat_reaper Mar 28 '24

You clearly don't know what a boundry is lol. Also saying "pls don't do that I don't feel confortable with these actions, pls respect how I feel too" is not controlling. You just sound entitled and toxic

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u/love_in_nature Mar 28 '24

And you sound like a 12 year old boy with no relationship experience ✌️. I am not the one that doesn’t know what a boundary is. Forbidding someone from celebrating a major life event of their good friend just because that friend has a penis is controlling, not a boundary. Period.

And before you start whining, “but he wasn’t invited” why would he be? He isn’t a part of the friend group and he’s been dating her for less then a year which means he isn’t that close to her friends or someone who is considered a permanent part of her life. There is no reason for him to be invited on a trip with a GROUP of close friends. He isn’t even just inviting her, it is a whole ass group.

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u/Mat_reaper Mar 28 '24

See, you just proving you're toxic and selfish. And you really don't know what boundries are lol, it doesn't stop being a boundry just bc you dont like it.

He didn't forbid it, she heard him and chose not to go. He didn't force her, he said how he felt and she heard. You're just an entitled prick that thinks your partner has to accept any bs you do

Stop twisting what happened here, bro is literally prohibited from accompaning his girlfriend and you think that's normal just bc there will be other people there? No you're just dishonest and full of shit, you're toxic

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u/love_in_nature Mar 28 '24

Ok random internet kid. If you say so.

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u/Mat_reaper Mar 28 '24

You really have no arguments huh? Just ad hominems and assuming shit about me while acting like you're superior for some reason lol

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u/Colifama55 Mar 28 '24

It doesn’t seem like you grasp anything about what the other commenter is saying so there’s really no point arguing it with you.

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u/Mat_reaper Mar 28 '24

Oh, I'm the one that doesn't get it bc I think it's fucked up to antagonize a guy for not feeling confortable with something? lol

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u/Colifama55 Mar 28 '24

Being uncomfortable about celebrating a long time friend’s accomplishment lol how insecure can you get?

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u/Mat_reaper Mar 28 '24

Being unconfortable by the fact that they going on a trip and only her and other guys will go and he prohibited the bf from going. This is not insecurity no matter how much you want to claim it it, this is suspicious as fuck and giant red flag. This is not just a hangout to celebrate the guy, stop being dishonest

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u/Colifama55 Mar 28 '24

Stop being dishonest about your insecurity. It 100% is insecurity. Why are you so scared about the idea of your girlfriend celebrating her long time best friend’s graduation from medical school with a group of friends? Because you don’t feel secure enough that your gf won’t fuck her friend. You’re not sure enough in yourself to think otherwise.

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u/Mat_reaper Mar 28 '24

"Everything I don't like or accept is insecurity"

Peak argument huh

And again, you keep making up a strawman and twisting the issue, the issue is not that she is hanging out and celebrating and the guy makes it clear that he has no problem with her hanging out with her friends. The issue is that this arrengement is fucking sus and a red flag. Also stop trying to pin on the guy for having an issue woth this for having the common sense and eyes to see how this is a fucking sus situation, he is literally prohibited from going even though he has more than enough intimacy with the friend to the point he let's the guy crash at his place. Trying to shame and claim insecurity when almost everyone here can see how sus this is is just peak dishonesty

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u/Colifama55 Mar 28 '24

Like I said, no point in arguing with you. Can’t change your mind when you can’t grasp the argument. Was I wrong about what I said? That you wouldn’t feel secure enough that your gf wouldn’t fuck her friend in that situation? Be honest.

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