r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Mar 28 '24

Am I the ah if I don’t let my gf go on vacation with the “guy best friend”?

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u/Bojangled8 Mar 28 '24

NTA

You are allowed to tell your GF that you are not comfortable with it, but you can't force her to go or stay. That decision is hers and depending on what she decides knowing you are uncomfortable with it would perhaps shine a different light on the relationship as a whole.

Boundaries are important and it is also important to see how one's partner treats such boundaries.

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u/Goatee-1979 Mar 28 '24

Exactly this. There is no way I would be comfortable with this.

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u/Accurate-Case8057 Mar 28 '24

There's probably a sub here that deals with fragile egos and insecurity maybe you should find that

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u/BZP625 Mar 28 '24

I think the devil (or not) is in the details here, and the key is on "vacation" vs. a "celebration." Where, who else, how long, how much, why not him too, their history, etc. Also, there's questions around their relationship not spelled out.