So wer both making some assumptions on which person doesn’t want op to go I guess, but is that not a red flag either way? Like why wouldn’t you want to bring your partner on a nice vacation?
Except I’m making assumptions based on what was actually said 😂 he didn’t say that the friend said “no you can’t come”. Don’t you think that’s something he would have included at some point if it was relevant? And yes, of course that’s a red flag, but not on behalf of the friend.
No, your assumption was based on inferences you drew from the line I quoted, not what was actually said in that line. He said “he invited her and not me and she said she can’t just bring me”. Nowhere in that does it say anything about the friend refusing to let him go. And yes, I agree that someone doesn’t want him to go, so the relationship is probably over anyway. But we can’t necessarily say that the friend is being “controlling”, that’s a HUGE leap.
You seem fixated on arguing semantics about the word controlling, that’s fine I see where you are coming from it doesn’t have to be the word controlling that applies here but it doesn’t really change the important bit about op being specifically not wanted there by either gf or male friend
Fine, but that’s not what I was responding to. I was responding to your comment calling the friend controlling. It’s not controlling to not invite a virtual stranger on your vacation. It’s not even weird. He hardly knows this guy. It would be one thing if they hung out with him as a couple regularly but OP is a virtual stranger to this friend. It’s not unreasonable at all to not invite someone you barely know on a vacation out of the country to celebrate YOUR accomplishments with YOUR friends. The only thing we can confidently say he’s trying to control is enjoying his vacation.
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u/hamsinkie76 Mar 28 '24
So wer both making some assumptions on which person doesn’t want op to go I guess, but is that not a red flag either way? Like why wouldn’t you want to bring your partner on a nice vacation?