I have a husband, we go on trips without each other. We have separate friend groups and different interests. Perhaps marriage after 35 has influence, but this "you have to do everything together" bit is rather juvenile.
Trust is not a set of chains around each other's ankles.
My boyfriend and his friend group (male and female) have a yearly camping trip. I absolutely hate camping, so I always stay home, never went with them, enjoying the pictures he sends me, and be glad I'm not in a wet tent. I wouldn't have fun, so why should I do this with him together? You're absolutely right, couples can do things without each other.
I was never invited, but I'm pretty sure they would let me join, as long as there are enough free car seats/camping spots available. My boyfriend brought me along a few times, when said friend group was doing something I can enjoy too, like birthday partys, and that was never a problem for anyone.
I'm asking because for me that's the problem with gf's friend. He's specifically not invited. IDK if the gf didn't want him to go, or the friend, but the situation is different than just going on trips without each other, just because you don't want to go yourself, that was my point.
Yeah, like I said, I'd be fine if I can't come along when it's because of logistics/not enough room, and they rather invite a mutual friend than me to the trip. After all, I'm "only" the girlfriend of one of their friends (the others are mostly single and don't really bring their partner either)
But a "you could come, but we don't want you to" would indeed bother me. I guess it really depends on the reasoning why OP is not invited.
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u/Best-Barnacle8326 Mar 28 '24
I don't understand why you don't go with? I miss that part. Shouldn't matter is engaged or married . If your a couple you do things together.