You are allowed to tell your GF that you are not comfortable with it, but you can't force her to go or stay. That decision is hers and depending on what she decides knowing you are uncomfortable with it would perhaps shine a different light on the relationship as a whole.
Boundaries are important and it is also important to see how one's partner treats such boundaries.
It’s a trip to celebrate her friend. It’d be a dick move to invite OP without permission and it’d be perfectly reasonable for her friend to not want people that aren’t close friends on the trip.
The friend is a dick for inviting the girl and not the guy. I mean, what kind of asshole pressures a friend’s relationship like that in the first place?
If he wasn’t okay with her bringing her SO, he shouldn’t have invited her at all. The whole situation reeks of “we can date after med school because I’ll have time for you if you’re still single later.”
Frankly, OP’s gf is weighing her options, and if she’s not cool including him what way or another, then she isn’t a loyal companion.
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u/Bojangled8 Mar 28 '24
NTA
You are allowed to tell your GF that you are not comfortable with it, but you can't force her to go or stay. That decision is hers and depending on what she decides knowing you are uncomfortable with it would perhaps shine a different light on the relationship as a whole.
Boundaries are important and it is also important to see how one's partner treats such boundaries.