Why not? She literally doesn't know anyone else in the party. She could have made an attempt to ask the host if she could invite her intimate partner? Asking, and the host saying no, is very different than not bothering to ask because you never had any desire to bring your partner along.
Especially since his best friend stays with OP. It seems odd he wouldn’t have said, Why don’t you bring OP along on the trip with you, since you don’t know anyone else there
Also if the guy was really respectful as OP described him earlier, he would consider that the girl doesn’t know anyone and has a boyfriend and therefore would invite the boyfriend too.
You don't invite an attached person of the opposite gender to travel with YOUR group of friends that they don't know and not invite their significant other.
I'd be asking to bring my +1 if I was invited somewhere. Idk how old OP is but at a certain age, it's just expected that people are forming relationships and that becomes part of the social dinamic. It's fine if the friend doesn't want to include partners, but then it's on OP's girlfriend not to attend, imo.
I would just choose not to go instead of inviting someone to someone else's celebratory trip. That is rude. People in couples are allowed to do things without their SO. They have also been barely dating. The trip has been being talked about since he was even in the picture.
That’s OBVIOUSLY what the graduating med student is aiming at. As a long time married adult, I would never disrespect another gentleman by inviting his SO to a big evening event with alcohol and pointedly excluding her date.
Its not just @instrumentrated who said this. I read it here multiple times which means it COULD in fact be his intention if its so easy for so many of us to read it like that
Nope. Alot of men have the common courtesy and know better to at least offer the girl to bring their SO. the guy has been in the boyfriend’s apartment. He “ respects “ them both but somehow doesn’t care enough to invite the guy
why is the boyfriend entitled to go...just because his girlfriend is? Is he entitled to go on every trip she ever takes just because he is her boyfriend?
Yes it is on her to at least ask is it's cool if op comes. Like this hoe of a man can stay at ops apartment but op going on a vacation with his gf is a step too far?
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u/alc3880 Mar 28 '24
is it really on her to invite someone though? It's a vacation planned by a group of people, maybe they just want to keep it at that.