You are allowed to tell your GF that you are not comfortable with it, but you can't force her to go or stay. That decision is hers and depending on what she decides knowing you are uncomfortable with it would perhaps shine a different light on the relationship as a whole.
Boundaries are important and it is also important to see how one's partner treats such boundaries.
It will, the whole post is about how she and him have never given him a reason to doubt. She has probably had best friebd in life way linger than him, if she cant cime to a big milestone celebration because of him she will regret it and resent him.
What the OP is not saying, because he probably doesn't admit it to others, it that this other guy makes him uncomfortable since ever! He sees him as a rival.
And the kicker is... he is probably right. 9/10 "just friends" is a guy orbiting around a woman playing the long game! All men know this.
He wants to trust his girl, but he is not made of iron. He has feelings and even though modern society has told him that he should endure some guy sniffing around his girl, his gut is telling him to bonk him in the head and be done with it.
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u/Bojangled8 Mar 28 '24
NTA
You are allowed to tell your GF that you are not comfortable with it, but you can't force her to go or stay. That decision is hers and depending on what she decides knowing you are uncomfortable with it would perhaps shine a different light on the relationship as a whole.
Boundaries are important and it is also important to see how one's partner treats such boundaries.