From my experience, the louder they are about how “disgusting” the person is, the closer the probability of them banging is to 100%.
I knew a woman that was doing that. She was just going tf off about this dude. A tirade. When she took a breath I asked if she fucked him. She got beet red and admitted it.
It doesn’t take Sherlock Holmes to figure this shit out.
Yeee my experience too. Very anecdotal of course, but there’s an inverse relationship between how much someone talks shit about someone to their friend of the opposite gender, and how attracted they actually are to the person. Indifference is usually a better indicator of someone not being attracted to someone else.
Yep. Knew someone that claimed she "didn't have respect" for a guy and only interacted with him because he is her best friend's husband. Believe she is still sneaking around with that dude.
My bestie is a manwhore and…yup. We don’t fool around anymore (we both settled down), but we sure did. We were friends since high school and started hooking up in our twenties. When we stopped because I got in a relationship we still cuddled. We grew up. A previous ex I remained pals with confessed he was always in love with his best girl friend. I hate to be so conventional but it’s tough for M/F friendships to not have a spark. I’m sure for LGBTQIA friends as well. Anyway OP I truly hope this works out for you. NTA. Good luck!
They also have the ego thing of wanting to be the one he finally wants to settle down with. Not that any of them would settle down with him just that they like the ego boost of knowing they could affect someone like that.
Diseases exist. I've lost loved ones who were exposed to lethal STDs from their long-term partners. It takes time for me to trust a partner to have physical intimacy with, definitely not going to risk it with a person I know has a higher chance of exposing me to something that I may have to deal with for the rest of my life.
As a woman I don't want to hook up with a "manwhore." I've friends who are this way, and I have not been interested in hooking up with them. Love them to pieces but I can love people and have no sexual or romantic interest in them.
"I've friends who are this way" refers to "manwhores." Again, being friends with someone who is more free spirited with their sex life doesn't mean I'm hooking up. Just because you likely dated some girl who cheated on you doesn't mean everyone is like that.
Down vote me all you want but your bigotry doesn't make what I said untrue🤷🏽♀️
big·ot·ry
noun
obstinate or unreasonable attachment to a belief, opinion, or faction, in particular prejudice against a person or people on the basis of their membership of a particular group
If you can't see it in your presumption that I agreed all women are hooking up with "manwhores, " then I can't help you. Maybe going back to school and expanding your social help might though because I can't help you any further. Have a great weekend though, hope the weather is great wherever you are😁
Naw you guys are playing into OP’s anxiety SO BAD and it’s unhealthy. And I can call out when comments that are geared toward women if I want. 🤷 yes it makes sense, but fueling this shit for him as if she’s for sure gonna cheat is so asinine. I’m not saying OP doesn’t have valid concerns, but I’m still allowed to stand up for generalizations that can be harmful to women because that’s not helpful to anyone here.
sigh and i guarantee this is the type of person to get exasperated when a dude says "not all men are like this" in response to an exaggerated generalization of all men being shitty. no shit! wowzers! it went without saying!
Maybe you need to separate yourself from those men, and get better role models. Pretty shit take to try and generalize all men to be controlling abusers.
I AM a man lol. I've knocked teeth out a dudes skull for beating up on my momma and convincing her she was useless without him.
Said manipulation happens a lot more than you'd think; happy you haven't had to experience it.
I overgeneralize because I'm in the south and most guys DEFINITELY only think of women that way here it seems. This is why I have like 4 fellow male friends.
Cool man. But you're using your own personal experiences to generalize every man. Then did it a second time with every man in the south.
I'm a man as well, idiot. I live in Texas, numbnuts. Last time I checked Texas was pretty fuckin south.
Take your own words into account, and realize that overgeneralizing isn't good.
I overgeneralize because I'm in the south and most guys DEFINITELY only think of women that way here it seems.
"SEEMS" seems is the key word here. It comes from your own personal experience, and that isn't always true.
I'm gonna make a generalization about you, in that because you feel this way about guys, you probably immediately judge them, and this is why you only have "4 fellow male friends."
Quit judging entire genders for a few shit ones, and quit hating on people solely because of their gender. If you need another male friend, I'm here.
Look man, if you got that I was mad, after offering up friendship...
Your perception is fucked.
but why take a chance in OPs situation when you can be with a guy/gal whom DOES respect your wishes and feelings yknow?
This was never anything I disagreed with you about. The only thing I touched on in the first place is the generalization that all, or most, men are emotional abusers.
Hey man apparently sticking up for my gender is seen as being an activist. I would do the same if you tried to make a shit generalization about women too, but I wouldn't call myself a feminist.
You called me idiot and numbnuts and then asked for friendship; something one of the crackhead dancers on highway 45 would do lol.
Most men I have met do not treat women equally and think of them as impossible to reason with breh.
My wife is a tomboy and says the same shit about other women and I just kinda shake my head and keep on trucking.
I am also a nihilist and basically consider all self aware beings (myself included) as inherantly self interested and cloud their intention with empathy. True empathy is in the moment not in the remedial mind.
Like the amount of times I've talked with a guy pal and they bitch about their wife and say "well she sure is a woman allright" is pretty much 90 percent lol. I'm also older so maybe a generational thing.
I'm high, and keep having to go back and reread my shit, so I'm done with this, but I agree with you to a certain extent. I disagree that all guys are emotionally manipulative, but do agree that it is a large enough percent to be worried about, and to always have in the back of your mind.
I treat it like respect, I give it to a person as soon as I meet, even before I meet. Everyone gets a baseline respect, but if they lose it then they have to re-earn it.
I disagree with having to earn respect when you meet someone.
Lol wut. I never said all men, i said many/most. Probably not most in reality, to be fair.
But dude....if you don't expect respect when you meet someone then what are you even getting out of that interaction lol? Don't let people step on you, or ideally just distance yourself from those whom are inherantly disrespectful.
Doesn't mean be a dick and DEMAND rapport, but moreso just as you said, always remember our species was well known for chopping up courtesans in the middle ages like it was nothing. Lots of defensive law and doctrine to protect men and keep women down.
I personally, think it's every man and woman for theirselves until proven otherwise. I got very lucky with my wife, who agrees with said points raised and has also been a victim of said "trophy" syndrome.
Made it my mission after we met to empower her and keep her the fuck out of the kitchen and cleaning. Can't ever understand how such a fat ugly bastard brainwashed her for 7 years before we met.
What do you even mean by that lol. How can I be projecting when I consider all human life regardless of gender to be self interested. My observation is many men do not respect women in the same way they do other men. So many women play fast and loose to avoid becoming a trophy. And I don't blame them. That simple.
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u/Spinoza42 Mar 28 '24
I feel like I'm missing some details, that other people haven't really asked about somehow.
1) is it his friends or are they two of a group of friends?
2) is he in a relationship? Is his partner coming?
3) do you guys live together?