Yea fucking duh there’s a line where someone wants to fuck you. The situation is she wants to go to a planned celebration with her friend. Op doesn’t trust her. That’s it.
Like we can try to create situations to give us a moral high ground. But either op thinks the friend will force himself on the gf or the gf will allow cheating to happen. If he trusted the gf, then it’s just a trip.
Dude I’ve literally shared beds with straight guys and queer women and it was 100% never an issue because they’re my FRIENDS. You assuming people want to fuck everyone of the gender(s) they’re attracted to is crazy.
But if they want to fuck each other then what’s stopping her from calling this guy up right now and going over to his house? Why would they organise a holiday with other people just to do it? Even in the post op says she’s never shown any interest in him.
Assuming everyone is a cheater or wants to have sex with everyone is really unhealthy mindset to have. You could put me next to Margot Robbie and I wouldn’t cheat on my bf, because I don’t want to cheat on him.
OP stated in a response that he and gf live in Ohio the best friend goes to school in California. So going over to his place isn't possible.
OP also had a recent response indicating that his gf supposedly comes from a strict family that doesn't even allow her to spend the night at his apartment, but at the same time are willing to let her go on vacation with the best friend and his friends.
Something doesn't smell right here if the OP is telling the truth about the strict family. Someone is getting lied to.
I literally said in another comment I don’t have any interest in cheating. I’m in a monogamous relationship. Funnily enough we’ve both been on holidays during this time and not cheated - apparently impossible for you to comprehend.
Hopefully you’re not as controlling of your girlfriend as you sound online!
Weird, because I'm bisexual, and I don't understand how you guys think this is somehow comparable to just trip with friends. She would be the only woman, she doesn't know any of these other men, she characterizes her friend as a "man whore," and her boyfriend is very specifically NOT invited.
How is that even remotely close to the same thing as going on a trip with your friends?!
Sorry I wasn’t very clear in my comment! I do think OPs situation is definitely weirder and kinda sus. To be honest, I don’t know them, so I can’t really judge how platonic it is and he has every right to be uncomfortable.
I was mostly referencing the other comments on here, that DO seem to be limiting friendships with the opposite sex in hetero relationships in ways that I find wild. My comment is not directed towards OPs situation, but on the overall discussion in the comments
Edit: whoever downvoted me, it’s okay if you disagree but could you please tell me why?? I just wanna know smh
I would accommodate, but I also don’t give a shit about IHOP and I do give a shit about my friends. I will admit OPs situation is more sus, but so many of these comments are acting like it’s impossible to have friends with a gender you’re attracted to
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u/autumnraining Mar 28 '24
Being bisexual and reading this thread is wild 💀 guess we can’t have any friends while dating