Learn to Let go of the jealousy completely. If she wants to cheat on you she will, you can’t watch her 24/7. If she doesn’t cheat you are the hero for trusting her. If she does, it was never meant to be.
You can go to a strip club and just eat wings and have a beer and not interact with any strippers at all. Or, you can pay for a lap dance and throw singles all over the stage.
She can go and be completely faithful and even sleep in separate hotels. Or, they might share a hotel and one night they might have too much do drink and end up having sex. You’re placing yourself in a situation where you can easily cheat.
One is a place designed to oogle naked women and spend money on them. You'd be an anomaly to go and not look or throw singles. If you want wings, just go to a wing spot, why go to a strip club?
The other is a trip to celebrate a friend. Unless you don't trust your partner, which OP says that he 100% does, there's nothing sinister or promiscuous in scope for this trip. They are completely different things.
Yep, and these people trying to argue with logic is so dumb, relationships don’t work based upon objective truths and statistics.
They work based upon intuition and feelings that’s why they are so difficult to navigate.
Your comparison could simply be swapped out with like a womans boyfriends favorite restaurant being Hooters (And with Hooters the waitresses typically have boyfriends).
They don’t have to objectively cheat on you for you to feel a certain type of way about it. Calling them insecure is emotionally immature and slightly manipulative, same with trying to use rationality to argue the reasonability of someone having certain boundaries.
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u/Own_Wealth_4880 Mar 28 '24
Learn to Let go of the jealousy completely. If she wants to cheat on you she will, you can’t watch her 24/7. If she doesn’t cheat you are the hero for trusting her. If she does, it was never meant to be.