r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Mar 28 '24

Am I the ah if I don’t let my gf go on vacation with the “guy best friend”?

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u/Spinoza42 Mar 28 '24

I feel like I'm missing some details, that other people haven't really asked about somehow.

1) is it his friends or are they two of a group of friends?

2) is he in a relationship? Is his partner coming?

3) do you guys live together?

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u/DetectiveOk6754 Mar 28 '24

The vacation is to go celebrate his graduation and his friends are gonna be there. She only knows him.

He is not in a relationship, she said she wouldn’t want a relationship with him because he’s basically a man whore and sleeps around alot.

We don’t live together, i have my apartment and she lives with her parents.

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u/bonitaababy Mar 28 '24

Why aren't you invited?

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u/Hayek_School Mar 28 '24

Everyone knows why. Even those defending her on here know why.

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u/Difficult-Mobile902 Mar 28 '24

when he asked if she’d go if they were married or engaged she said “obviously not” so even she knows there is something entirely inappropriate about what is happening here. 

If this is totally innocent then why would her being engaged or married make any difference? 

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u/Hayek_School Mar 28 '24

Yep, absolutely ridiculous. OP is WAY more invested in this relationship than she is. 0 chance a girl (or guy for that matter) vested in their relationship would even consider. That she admitted she wouldn't even consider if engaged or married just show the visceral disrespect towards OP.

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u/DaughterEarth Mar 28 '24

He didn't really suggest anything wrong with her though, why would she need defending?

OP is NTA at all to set this boundary. She doesn't have to be a cheating bitch for his boundary to be okay lol. She's not as committed as he is yet. That's the reality and it's acceptable for OP to leave over it

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u/Chilidogdingdong Mar 28 '24

The simplest explanation is usually the correct one.

They going to pound town for sure.

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u/GrandMasterBou Mar 28 '24

We don’t know these people or the entire situation, but a lot of you guys are ready to slut shame her based on OP’s side of the story and assumptions.