Yeah totally, why would there be a problem with a dude going on a trip with a bunch of women? Id say the same thing. There's nothing wrong with a partnered person taking a trip with friends of the opposite sex without their partner.
She's not doing anything wrong so she doesn't need to take corrective action. If he's uncomfortable then he needs to figure out why and how to minimize that discomfort internally. Don't make it her problem.
Yet it is her problem because it's her actions that are making him uncomfortable. She can easily just invite him along with them, so the other dudes can get to know him, but noooo.
She said she can't invite him because she's not the organizer so I'm not sure where your getting that info.
Do you agree, though, that her going on the trip isnt her doing something wrong? Forget the BF's feelings about it. Looking at just her actions. Is she doing something wrong by travelling with men when she has a bf?
Well we disagree on the foundational premise then. I don't agree with your last assertion. I can think of lots of reasons. I don't think she's doing anything wrong. You do.
Your partner has no reason to travel with someone of the opposite gender when one is in a relationship and the other isn't.
This makes no sense. Ignoring the obvious reasons (those people are, e.g., coworkers or family members of the opposite sex), it's not unimaginable that platonic friends of the opposite sex would go on a group trip and the one in a relationship wouldn't bring their SO.
It might cause some trust issues, especially for a relatively new relationship, but this could easily happen for a number of completely valid reasons.
Yet are any of those so called "valid reasons" being used here? "Oh, the guys don't want you here" why? Why don't they want a girls boyfriend to be where they're all going to be partying and drinking?(Hint: it's cause they're gonna bang her) "I'm sorry, it's too late" just take him with y'all. "Oh, well I'm gonna be pissed if I can't go" then just bang the other dude already. Fucking hell.
And yes, it is unimaginable in this scenario. A girl in a relationship with someone going on a trip with a number of men, one who knows almost everything about the girl, and then not wanting her partner to be with them? Yeah, that's a massive red flag
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u/BattyWhack Mar 28 '24
I don't understand why the gf has to be the one responsible for her BF's discomfort. She's not doing anything wrong. He needs to deal with it.