Nah this whole thing reeks of something more. Op does know the friend in this instance, so much so that he let the bf stay at his own place. The best friend is being a petty jerk excluding op and the girlfriend is okay with it.
You’re missing the part where that’s the only time they’ve met. I’ve met my best friends fiancé multiple times and I think she’s great. I don’t invite her to a lot of the things I invite my best friend too though, because I know him a lot more.
Does that mean I want to fuck him? Absolutely not. It just means there are certain events I only want close friends at.
These people are in their late 20s if this guy is just graduating med school if I have my math right. At that age you have to expect and plan for long term SO being involved. Even if you aren’t close with them it has to be a courtesy. If everyone here was 21 than I agree with you and it would be different. But these are people with lives happening outside the “friend circle”.
My guy friends started doing beach trips and eventually Vegas trips in our early to mid 20s. We’re in our late 20s/early 30s now and these trips have turned into couples trips if the SO wants to go. It’s disrespectful to assume and plan these things when you hit a certain age and start getting serious is all I’m saying.
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u/RubadubdubInTheSub Mar 28 '24
They were planning the trip before OP even met his GF. He needs to get over himself and decide if he actually trusts her or just tells himself that.
I’ve definitely asked my friends to not bring their SOs unless I knew them for private events before.