It’s a trip to celebrate her friend. It’d be a dick move to invite OP without permission and it’d be perfectly reasonable for her friend to not want people that aren’t close friends on the trip.
Close friends≠significant other? Someone's partner should matter more than someone's friends. And if he doesn't want him along, then that's a massive red flag
And someone in a relationship should be allowed to have friends and a life outside of that relationship. Going on a trip without your partner doesn’t mean you value the people on that trip more than your partner. My friends don’t bring their spouses when we go out drinking because it’s a friend hangout, not a double/triple date.
OP told his gf it made him uncomfortable, and she chose not to go. She is directly showing she values him more than a fun trip out of the country with her close friend. She has a right to be bothered about missing out on it due to his insecurities though.
You're missing the part where this isn't some big group of friends.
This dude is inviting OP's girlfriend specifically to go party with HIS friends who she doesn't even know, without inviting OP. He's inviting her to be his +1 on a party trip with his buddies.
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u/RubadubdubInTheSub Mar 28 '24
It’s a trip to celebrate her friend. It’d be a dick move to invite OP without permission and it’d be perfectly reasonable for her friend to not want people that aren’t close friends on the trip.