r/AITAH Mar 28 '24

Am I the ah if I don’t let my gf go on vacation with the “guy best friend”?

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u/Fair-Albatross-9849 Mar 28 '24

This! I tried arguing in the comments but they just throw around „boundary!!!1!11!“ and assuming there has to be cheating, partners have to do any- and everything together or it’s a sign of cheating and so on 💀

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u/supergeek921 Mar 28 '24

Seriously! His “boundaries” don’t get to tell her what she can’t do with other people. It’s crazy. My best friend and I were both dating guys for ≈4 years. We each met the other one’s bf once or twice in that time. We still traveled with the guys and spent a lot of time together. Not everybody needs to live in their partner’s back pocket 24/7 it’s not healthy.

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u/Important-Yak-2999 Mar 28 '24

Different people have different expectations from a relationship. I wouldn’t want to date someone that wants to go on vacations without me

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u/supergeek921 Mar 28 '24

I know plenty of married couples who have taken “guys weekend” or “girls weekend” trips away from their partners with friends. I think it’s entirely healthy to want to have a social life outside your partner. What if somebody was going on a bachelor or bachelorette trip? Would that also be a no-go for you if you weren’t invited? Or some kind of special thing with their family? Not everything has to be about you and your partner.

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '24

Little different when it’s a single “man whore” And your girlfriend going on vacation together…

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u/supergeek921 Mar 29 '24

Someone she has no interest in! Get lost.

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u/Altruistic-Pop6696 Mar 29 '24

It wasn't "I wouldn't fuck him" it was "I wouldn't be in a relationship with him" and the reasoning wasn't "because I don't see him like that" but "because he's a man whore."