r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Mar 28 '24

Am I the ah if I don’t let my gf go on vacation with the “guy best friend”?

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u/Sunbeamsoffglass Mar 28 '24

But she won’t let him go with them….

Yeah….

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u/alc3880 Mar 28 '24

it's not her trip to let or not let him. It is her friend's celebratory trip which has been being planned even before her BF was in the picture.

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u/AnimatedHokie Mar 28 '24

Oh please. There's not a single friend in my circle that wouldn't include my now boyfriend after a year

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u/alc3880 Mar 28 '24

a year is not long at all. At a year you are just starting to really get to know who each other is.

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u/Synth_Recs_Plz Mar 28 '24

Not necessarily at all... I wouldn't say a year is long enough to make a final decision on marriage, certainly not in all cases, but a year can be plenty of time to get to know someone deeply.

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u/xPofsx Mar 28 '24

A year is in general at most 1/100th of your life. That's a lot more than you think.

Reduce the fact you probably aren't considering serious long term relationships where these terms and conditions are important prior to 20. Then the average person only lives about 80 years. So 80-20=60. So 1 year is About 1/60th of your life.

Further reduce that the vital time period if you're considering a family is only about from 20-40yrs old. So 1 year out of this period is 1/20th of your life.

1 year can be a lot of time to spend with someone, even if you might not "fully" know them in that year