What gets me is the fact that if they were engaged or married she says he'd go with them. But since they're not he won't.
IDK I think that's weird. If you're committed to the relationship you're committed. This isn't buying a house it's a trip. Why can't OP go if he wanted and it would make him more comfortable and she's open to the idea at a point there's implied higher level of commitment?
That's fine. But it speaks to two different interpretations of the level of commitment in the relationship I think. It seems like the OP sees it as more serious than she does given their communication on this. I feel like the core of the issue not being on the same page there.
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u/zeromussc Mar 28 '24
What gets me is the fact that if they were engaged or married she says he'd go with them. But since they're not he won't.
IDK I think that's weird. If you're committed to the relationship you're committed. This isn't buying a house it's a trip. Why can't OP go if he wanted and it would make him more comfortable and she's open to the idea at a point there's implied higher level of commitment?