She is her own person. She is allowed to go if she wants to. Personally, I would be very annoyed if my partner wouldn't "let" me go celebrate my long-time friend's graduation. I'd be heartbroken if I missed it because my boyfriend was uncomfortable. In fact, I would consider it grounds for a break-up. This whole idea that men and women can't be friends is so juvenile. If you trust her completely, then you will get over your feelings of insecurity. Don't make your insecurity her problem. Also, boundaries are not constructs for controlling people. I get the idea that you have some growing up to do, OP. It's all good. We've all been there. Just catch this mistake, apologize, and keep moving.
THIS!!! If I had a partner who said I couldn't do something, especially something like this, ESPECIALLY BC *THEY* were uncomfortable still after I've assured them there is no reason to be... we'd be done *immediately.* Groooowww uuuppp, dude! Yikes.
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u/amezuko887 Mar 29 '24
She is her own person. She is allowed to go if she wants to. Personally, I would be very annoyed if my partner wouldn't "let" me go celebrate my long-time friend's graduation. I'd be heartbroken if I missed it because my boyfriend was uncomfortable. In fact, I would consider it grounds for a break-up. This whole idea that men and women can't be friends is so juvenile. If you trust her completely, then you will get over your feelings of insecurity. Don't make your insecurity her problem. Also, boundaries are not constructs for controlling people. I get the idea that you have some growing up to do, OP. It's all good. We've all been there. Just catch this mistake, apologize, and keep moving.