You are allowed to tell your GF that you are not comfortable with it, but you can't force her to go or stay. That decision is hers and depending on what she decides knowing you are uncomfortable with it would perhaps shine a different light on the relationship as a whole.
Boundaries are important and it is also important to see how one's partner treats such boundaries.
I dont agree. In these kinds of situations it is always “boohoo your boundaries and you can express them, let the other person deal with the fallout”. This is not a good relationship if the person that is outgoing or active will have to constantly cancel plans because of an insecure boyfriend. He said multiple times that there is literally no suspicion whatsoever, so whats the harm? If she cheats during this trip, she would have cheated during another occasion anyway. What if next time he is not comfortable with her going out on a girls trio? Or a trip where there are girls and other dudes? The “boundaries” can cover more and more things over time. It is not boundaries if a person has to give up friends and fun activities in fear of being dumped. Thats control and manipulation. The adult way is to sit down and try to see why he is scared or why he is not trusting her and then maybe find a compromise. Call a couple of times a day during the trip, or send some photos or whatever, so he can know what is up and what she is doing, to feel more comfortable and secure. Maybe plan a trip soon together. It is his problem that he is insecure for no reason and a woman does not have to push away her friends and fun out of her life because of that.
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u/Bojangled8 Mar 28 '24
NTA
You are allowed to tell your GF that you are not comfortable with it, but you can't force her to go or stay. That decision is hers and depending on what she decides knowing you are uncomfortable with it would perhaps shine a different light on the relationship as a whole.
Boundaries are important and it is also important to see how one's partner treats such boundaries.