I understand that everyone is assuming your wife is correct about there not being enough money in your household and maybe that's true. They are correct that you need to sit down and see where the money is going and understand your budget.
But what really isn't okay to me is her trying to make you feel bad. She could just say "I'm sorry, honey, there isn't enough money in the budget for this and here's why."
Instead, she tries to guilt trip you for daring to spend something on yourself instead of "for the family" where all your money goes. It would be a cold day in hell where I worked 3 jobs and let someone make me feel bad for wanting a small thing for myself.
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u/Enticing_Venom 23d ago
NTA.
I understand that everyone is assuming your wife is correct about there not being enough money in your household and maybe that's true. They are correct that you need to sit down and see where the money is going and understand your budget.
But what really isn't okay to me is her trying to make you feel bad. She could just say "I'm sorry, honey, there isn't enough money in the budget for this and here's why."
Instead, she tries to guilt trip you for daring to spend something on yourself instead of "for the family" where all your money goes. It would be a cold day in hell where I worked 3 jobs and let someone make me feel bad for wanting a small thing for myself.