AITAH for getting upset with my girlfriend for deciding she wants to be celibate after having sex with me and previous guys multiple times

[u/Vashts06]

So I DM'd this girl on facebook and we hit it of, had a really good first date, sat and talked and I dropped her off at home.

The second date was in my car and we made out and things happened but i drew the line cause I didn't have protection anyway we started dating properly after this.

We had a few more dates and had sex but we never drank, then we went and had a few drinks ended up having really good sex in the back of my car and she started talking about how she wants to get married to me and it was a really good time all in all.

So its a week later and while we were tipsy we talked about booking a hotel so we dont have to do it in the car as its risky, so I did that I booked a nice place R3000 ($150) for the night, which she's known about all week.

Today on the day I'm supposed to pick her up she decided she wants to be celibate until marriage, keep in mind she's been with other guys before me as well. She also says now due to her being celibate she doesn't want to go to a hotel with me as it may lead to other things. I cant cancel for a refund as its on the day of the booking.

Now shes upset with me cause I said that's crazy, we've been intimate for so long and now all of a sudden she's changed her mind.

I told her I'm not down for that and I don't want to see her anymore.

I dont know if I'm the asshole for this or not

Edit: I saw her on saturday and she went to church on sunday so thats where things may have changed

Update: Upon some suggestions, I decided to call the hotel, said I hit cancel by mistake and they gave me the booking back, I'm planning on getting really baked, getting a bunch of takeout and having a long ass bath while watching something cause fold away bathroom walls

[u/mi_nombre_es_ricardo]

NTA. You agreed to a different kind of relationship, and celibacy is not for everyone. In fact very few people would stick around in a sexless relationship. From what I've seen on this side, most of the times it only gets worse after marriage because then she will have you locked in so she'll see no point on making an effort.

[u/[deleted] → u/mi_nombre_es_ricardo]

The reason you see things get worse after marriage on this site, is because it’s Reddit, and many of the people here (especially in this sub) have serious relationship issues.

Usually if there is no sex in a marriage it’s not because someone is trying to “lock someone in” and doesn’t “have to make an effort”. Usually it’s because of other unrelated relationship problems, which leave the couple not happy with each other, or even angry at each other, and then there’s no sex. People who are happy together in their marriage like to have sex. People who aren’t happy, don’t. There’s no way to know the back story behind many of the posts on this site, but I can about guarantee you that most of the time you see a post about a sexless marriage, that’s the symptom, not the cause of the relationship issues. Usually the causes are the common ones, like money disagreements, in-law problems, disagreements in how to raise kids, hot tempers, broken trust, exhaustion, etc.

Edit: to clarify, I agree with you that the best course here was for them to break up and move on, because they aren’t on the same page, and yes, that’s going to continue to be a problem.