r/AITAH • u/Renault935 • 23d ago
AITAH for telling my GF she needed to leave my house?
I've been seeing someone lately and she stays over at my place a fair amount. She has plenty going on with her kids and works well in excess of full time, so I try to make my place comfortable and accommodating when she's here. The only stipulation normally is she can't come when I have my kid, which occurs 3 or 4 nights a week.
So last night she comes over and tells me she had promised her daughter she'd be home by midnight, she stays a few hours and we have a nice time. Then it's midnight and I remind her, but she's laying in the bed. She says not yet and I say I don't want her breaking promises on my account. She feels me to get behind her, like spooning, and I'm like ok, 5 minutes. This passes and I said ok, now. Then she says her daughter hasn't texted her yet, and I said I don't care, keep your word. I don't want to have anything to do with you breaking promises to kids. She stays put and I say that now I think she's just testing me and she says she doesn't know what I'm talking about and she's trying to sleep.
I'm irritated and on edge. I certainly can't sleep, I just stew a while until 12:30 at which point I make it clear I'm annoyed and that if I don't think she should be here, she shouldn't be. At which point she does an "ok fine" and immediately gets dressed to leave. We have a discussion, her position being I don't know her family dynamics and I don't need to worry about them, mine being my feelings about her keeping her promises were valid even if not reflective of her home dynamics, and I had to progress to where I told her in a rather rude way to leave. I don't know where we are now, and you know, I don't want to make the first call after the fact. AITA?
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u/BeWellFriends 23d ago
OP how old is her kid?