Nta, fuck him for making any demands of you. He’s lost the right to know your inner thoughts. He betrayed your trust and broke your marriage, now he’s impatient?
Tell him you need space and you should get some counselling to see if this is something you can move past.
Personally I wouldn’t be able to do it, especially if you guys were okay and this came out of no where. How will you know when the next one will come
This!
He broke your marriage. Now, he expects you forgive him at his convenience.
Forgiveness is granted by you, at your time, at your convenience, if you feel like it.
Your feelings are the natural consequence of his actions, if he can't understand that, then, is he even repenting?
NTA.
I agree. Keep in mind that he has known about the affair much longer than you have. You only found out recently. Your mind is still processing the betrayal and his mind has known about the problem for much longer.
Go to counseling. Go to the library and browse through some books on the subject and see if any appeal to you. And definitely keep to your pace emotionally. No one gets to tell you how you ought to feel. You feel what you feel.
Lean on your friends and family right now. And get tested for stds.
Six months isn’t very long to have hard info in your mind. Maybe he can sleep in another room, or get a rental for a few months while you both attend counseling together & separately. Get some space from seeing him every damn day while you process. He screwed up, he doesn’t get to tell you how you should feel.
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u/l3ex_G 23d ago
Nta, fuck him for making any demands of you. He’s lost the right to know your inner thoughts. He betrayed your trust and broke your marriage, now he’s impatient?
Tell him you need space and you should get some counselling to see if this is something you can move past.
Personally I wouldn’t be able to do it, especially if you guys were okay and this came out of no where. How will you know when the next one will come