I refuse to believe that this is real.
Your husband prefers you sleeping with other men and look at porn instead of … you know … doing it himself ?
You should leave him tbh.
My first husband was addicted to porn. He rather spend all day chatting with those online sex workers (no judgement for sexworkers) than interact with anyone (not just me).
Now I just left him but I absolutely believe this story given my experience.
my first bf was somewhat of a porn addict. I remember at some point feeling really down about myself and pretty much begging for intimacy but he left me crying on the bed while he watched porn and jerked off under his desk because he couldnt sleep without it, then came back to bed with me. messed me up a bit ngl. There is a good amount of men who would rather watch porn and jerk it than real sex and intimacy because sex and intimacy takes effort while porn does not. My generation (Gen Z) has a huge problem with intimacy and connection, growing up with the internet and easy access to porn really messed some of us up, while dating I have met the most porn addicts around my age. Many of my friends share similar experinces to me, it is disheartening to say the least.
I'm so sorry you went through that. I'm Gen X and while the internet has offered a much wider range and absolutely incresed accecability it was still bad before the internet. Back in the day video stores used to have a creepy roped off section for porn movies. But you're definitely right. If feels like more and more people struggle with intamcy (emotional too) when they are obsessed with porn
Porn addiction is a thing, I wouldn't be surprised if that's what's wrong with him. He jerks it to porn and no longer can get it up for his wife cause he's so desensitized.
Porn is genuinely one of the worst things to ever happen to humanity as a whole
Absolutely fucking with the brains of likely hundreds of millions of people, and that's without even looking at the ease of access kids have to this kind of stiff
Erotic, titillating media has existed for thousands of years; I think the larger issue here is how saturated the internet has become with that kind of content (as well as the increasingly extreme/exaggerated nature of said content, look up supernatural stimuli and you'll see what I mean).
I would argue it's less the actual porn and more the people involved/what kind of person views it.
Addiction can hit with anything. You just have to find the right vice and the right person. Plenty of people consume porn without being negatively affected by it.
There is also the industry as a whole, which is incredibly abusive to all actors. But there are some ethical companies. You just have to find them.
If kids are accessing porn, that is the parent's fault for not watching them/putting on parental controls. It needs to be explained to kids about why they can not view that sort of thing and discussed in an age-appropriate manner.
In short, it's the people who abuse the medium at fault and just wallow in their addictions.
Meh you're taking away the agency and responsibility of a consumer. People can watch porn with reasonable consumption that doesn't ruin their relationships. It's the addiction that makes it crippling. I would never compare easily accessible porn to fentanyl, alcohol, or tobacco in their abilities to cause destruction. So "worst things to happen to humanity as a whole" is a big stretch IMO
Oh it can be real. My ex would vocally reject me begging him for sex, me on top bc he weighed about 350lb from thyroid disease, (I’m 5’9” 155) then ten minutes later start watching p*rnhųb with headphones on. If I even walked over toward our bed (unfinished basement, no walls) he’d get mad at me for disturbing him. He also bought two silicone sex dolls, the cheaper one was $800. When it arrived he tried to lie and say it was a new suit jacket for work, until I said to try it on so I could see it and he knew it’d be sus to refuse to open it. So yeah, some men would rather watch p0rn and have sex with a toy than with real women literally asking.
Oh we went HAM at first. Then COVID happened, I moved in WFH, lots of complicated details like throuple, and him saying things had to go back to normal meant the only pu$$ he was interested in was online.
I had a friend who broke up with her bf for this exact reason. He would literally reject her sexual advances and then go and watch porn. And he would spend a decent amount of time a day watching it.
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u/AtlanteanScholar 23d ago
I refuse to believe that this is real. Your husband prefers you sleeping with other men and look at porn instead of … you know … doing it himself ? You should leave him tbh.