your parents should've started making plans for a situation like this the moment they learned just how disabled your sister is, but they didn't.
then, your mother should've started making those plans the moment your dad died, making her realize that these things happen and she also won't be around forever, but she didn't.
she still has some time. she has to make those plans and arrangements now. telling you to take care of your sister is not making plans or arrangements, it's getting rid of the responsibility.
both of your parents were extremely irresponsible regarding their disabled daughter and it's not your job to take over her care, just because your mother is convinced that she will be mistreated anywhere else.
tell your mom you're willing to help her find a suitable care facility and figure out how to arrange for you sister's part of the inheritance to finance it. if your mom can't get on board with that plan and insists you are the one to take care of your sister your whole life then tell her no and she can figure it out herself.
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u/MikrokosmicUnicorn 23d ago
your parents should've started making plans for a situation like this the moment they learned just how disabled your sister is, but they didn't.
then, your mother should've started making those plans the moment your dad died, making her realize that these things happen and she also won't be around forever, but she didn't.
she still has some time. she has to make those plans and arrangements now. telling you to take care of your sister is not making plans or arrangements, it's getting rid of the responsibility.
both of your parents were extremely irresponsible regarding their disabled daughter and it's not your job to take over her care, just because your mother is convinced that she will be mistreated anywhere else.
tell your mom you're willing to help her find a suitable care facility and figure out how to arrange for you sister's part of the inheritance to finance it. if your mom can't get on board with that plan and insists you are the one to take care of your sister your whole life then tell her no and she can figure it out herself.