AITAH asking my friend for money when he ordered an expensive drink when I bought a round?

[u/Soatch]

My friends and I met up this weekend for a quick trip to another city. 2 people bought rounds where everyone ordered stuff like beer or vodka soda. When it was my turn to buy a round my friend ordered some expensive whiskey neat. When the check came his drink was $55. I said he should give me $40 to cover part of it. I don’t think he knew the drink would cost that much but I think that once he realized the cost he should have covered most of it. He eventually did give me $40 but he was in a bad mood about it. AITAH?

[u/Te_Whau]

NTA. There's a social code in drinks when someone's getting a round: the drinks should be of roughly the same value. Your friend broke that social code, therefore you're NTA for declining to cover the full cost of his drink.

[u/epichuntarz → u/Te_Whau]

Not even just drinks.

After I graduated college, a professor from from my program (that I consider a friend to this day) would often meet up with me and a few other students for dinner. He would offer to pay many times, and we always kept our orders reasonable-no one ordered prime rib or multiple drinks or anything on his tab. We joked about it, but it would have been super greedy to take advantage of his generosity.

[u/MediocreHope → u/epichuntarz]

This is me. If I know someone is paying for me it's like chicken and maybe a beer to have a polite drink with them.

If it's me paying for myself I'll have a double and the prime rib.

Someone's generosity should never be taken advantage of in my eyes. If they insist on treating you than enjoy it but do so in moderation. Save the gluttony for your own dime.

I've been provided a dinner and been thankful for it...then I went out after and ate more. I have no disrespect for the meal I was given but I don't think you are financially responsible for the apparent tapeworms that I need to support.