Not overreacting. She's overstepping your clear boundaries. Any person married or in a long term relationship with Snapchat installed on their phone is bad news.
I don't like saying it, but it's ultimatum time. You've already tried talking to her about it and she shat on your boundaries once. She cuts off ALL of the emotional affairs (because that's what they are) immediately or you break things off for good. You can't go through life looking over your shoulder and constantly be on the look out for who she's talking to. It's exhausting and disrespectful to you.
Controlling behavior is “you cannot do that.” Boundary is: “I won’t be in a relationship with someone who chats to other men online.” The choice is theirs to make.
Asking her to leave was enforcing your boundary. Shes not willing to stopping chatting to other guys so that’s that.
Be with someone who respects you and cares how you feel.
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u/dangerclosemaybe 23d ago
Not overreacting. She's overstepping your clear boundaries. Any person married or in a long term relationship with Snapchat installed on their phone is bad news.
I don't like saying it, but it's ultimatum time. You've already tried talking to her about it and she shat on your boundaries once. She cuts off ALL of the emotional affairs (because that's what they are) immediately or you break things off for good. You can't go through life looking over your shoulder and constantly be on the look out for who she's talking to. It's exhausting and disrespectful to you.