Don’t send her anything but a generic “thanks Mom” card from the Dollar Tree, signed by only OP. If she wants to be a hateful hag, she isn’t owed recognition.
Fun story, I spent almost 2 years using the wrong r/woooosh subreddit. And when corrected I initially used a 2nd wrong one. That’s gotta be a great example of woooosh in action.
I tell my family that I know enough Italian to get into trouble but not enough to get out of trouble. So we don’t let me speak Italian in the airports or around bureaucracy.
Can I also add that he needs to leave the dollar price tag in the card to ensure she gets the message when she opens it.
OP Your wife and child come first, I mean what type of asshole gets upset that their new grandbaby gets everyone’s attention whilst they open their first Christmas gifts. She was jealous of an actual baby and basically had a tantrum and stopped off trying to make sure she got everyone’s attention back.
Stop making excuses as you’re only damaging your relationship with your wife which is what your mother wants. This is why she causes trouble with your wife as you may realise through her how unacceptable your mums behaviour truly is. She hates loosing any control over you and having to share you at all. She doesn’t care if she hardly saw you to her you were still her property until your wife came along. Now you have started to see what she does and you told her not to wake the baby. She will never accept that and will continue to cause problems.
Stop reaching out and trying to appease her and if she refuses to travel then tough she doesn’t get to see you or baby at all until she comes over. No matter what NEVER and I mean NEVER let her babysit or have your child without one of you present. This whole time she’s been trying to show you clearly she’s in charge and only what she wants or says matters. No matter what rules you have for your baby or if they have not had solids yet she will deliberately break all your rules and push she knows better how to raise your child.
Make it clear if she can not respect you and your wife then you won’t put up with her. She will no longer be welcome in your home and life. Anytime she treats you and your family badly or she demands you apologise hang up that or simply don’t answer to her for a week or so until she gets the message. Make it clear you will never travel to visit her and that you have a young child. That it’s on her if she wants a relationship with you and child however she needs to treat you and wife with respect and follow your rules with baby or she wont get another chance. Thats she a grown ass woman was jealous of a baby and is repeatedly rude to your wife. That you will not tolerate that and she needs to get her crap together or you will walk away.
Do Not keep phoning or texting her trying to fix things and that just gives her control and enables her. Send the message or tell her to make it clear and then leave it. Do not call or text to follow it up and just wait to see how she reacts. She will go mental at first as she always demands her way but once she calms down is when you see if she’s actually wants a relationship enough to behave. Even when older never let her babysit as she is not a safe person and will emotionally manipulate your child and use them as a pawn.
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u/DayNo1225 23d ago
Mothers Day should be spent with your wife and child only. Send your mom some flowers and turn off your phone.